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Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
May all your problems be little ones !Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
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Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
Name as many things that you can that are funny, please =]Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
if your going for the funny factor do something that seriously happens on an everyday schedule for example...
confusing tooth brushes...EW
eating food that you meant to be ONLY yours
waking up to morning breath...also gross
being nice while your significant other is puking AFTER you said NUMEROUS times to STOP....
not saying the things you have running through your head sometimes..
accidental belches or farts....these can be traumatizing if not open in front of each other :)
each one of these can be taken and ran with so have fun, if you have fun im sure they'll have fun reading. Good luck!
if your going for the funny factor do something that seriously happens on an everyday schedule for example...
confusing tooth brushes...EW
eating food that you meant to be ONLY yours
waking up to morning breath...also gross
being nice while your significant other is puking AFTER you said NUMEROUS times to STOP....
not saying the things you have running through your head sometimes..
accidental belches or farts....these can be traumatizing if not open in front of each other :)
each one of these can be taken and ran with so have fun, if you have fun im sure they'll have fun reading. Good luck!
Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
Name as many things that you can that are funny, please =]Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
';Appliances are for making meals, not whoopee - never buy an appliance for a gift for your wife!';Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
never gain more weight than the ex- girlfriend or boyfriend.
Keep the spark and romance in your marriage -- never let things get so bad that you resort to ';hallway sex';. That's when you wake up, see your hubby coming out of the bathroom, and instead of saying ';Good morning';, he says, ';F... you!'; And you say back, ';F... you!';
';Appliances are for making meals, not whoopee - never buy an appliance for a gift for your wife!';Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
never gain more weight than the ex- girlfriend or boyfriend.
Keep the spark and romance in your marriage -- never let things get so bad that you resort to ';hallway sex';. That's when you wake up, see your hubby coming out of the bathroom, and instead of saying ';Good morning';, he says, ';F... you!'; And you say back, ';F... you!';
Advice for Newlyweds?
I have been with my husband for 10 years but we just got married a few months ago. We now live with my sibling in a home that my parents put the down payment on. We live with my sibling to help with bills for all of us. It really helps save money. My husband does not like living with my sibling and the fact that my parents own the house. He is trying but keeps threatning to move out. We are newly married and I don't want to lose someone I love so much. What should I do? Stay in the home and hope he will learn to be happy until my parents sell the house to us. Or move out of the house putting my parents and sibling in a bad spot and move back to an apartment? What would you do?Advice for Newlyweds?
Sounds as if he's a prideful man and he doesn't want to be seen as dependent on your family to get by. If that's the case then you may want to start playing to his ego a little bit. Again IF this is the case it's humiliating for him as he feels that it's his duty as the man of the house to provide for his family.
If this is not the case then it's probably the fact that he just doesn't care for your sibling living there with you all. I wouldn't force them if you need the money but there should be a plan in place for you all to manage the bills when the sibling leaves the home.Advice for Newlyweds?
your newly weds and as you said he doent like living there sounds like your both argueing about it so why dont you both go for a walk....
talk about your situation and find a solution if the solution is finding somewhere else then i am guessing your moving aso talk to your parents as the last thing you want to do is fall out with them ok
good luck
“You know it's love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you're not part of their happiness.”
So just do that for the other person.
If he loves you he'll love your family if not you just leave him.Love could not come to compromise.If your family treat him well he ought treat them with respect.
Been there. Living with family can ruin a marriage. You need to find honest renters to take your place and move out with your husband.
well maybe give your family a 6 months heads up that you guys are going to move out on your own . then you and your husband get an apartment
Sorry, husband comes first. If he wants to move than ya'll should move out. Your sibling can find roommates if necessary.
Love doesn't pay the mortgage
let him go
Your husband will NOT learn to be happy in a situation he dislikes. You need to grown a backbone when it comes to your parents. Marriage is between a husband and a wife. It does not include parents and siblings. Either way you and hubby need to be on the same page. If you can't compromise on this issue, there will certainly be trouble in your future. If you are serious about loving your husband then you need to move out and live by your own means. It's obvious neither you nor your sibling can afford the home on your own. Your parents can sell the house and hopefully get most or all of their down payment back. Whose goofy idea was this in the first place? What would happen if your sibling gets a partner who moves in too? This is just a recipe for disaster.
It may take you longer to afford a home on your own, but if your willing to work hard at saving, you will reap the benefits later. Best wishes!
Sounds as if he's a prideful man and he doesn't want to be seen as dependent on your family to get by. If that's the case then you may want to start playing to his ego a little bit. Again IF this is the case it's humiliating for him as he feels that it's his duty as the man of the house to provide for his family.
If this is not the case then it's probably the fact that he just doesn't care for your sibling living there with you all. I wouldn't force them if you need the money but there should be a plan in place for you all to manage the bills when the sibling leaves the home.Advice for Newlyweds?
your newly weds and as you said he doent like living there sounds like your both argueing about it so why dont you both go for a walk....
talk about your situation and find a solution if the solution is finding somewhere else then i am guessing your moving aso talk to your parents as the last thing you want to do is fall out with them ok
good luck
“You know it's love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you're not part of their happiness.”
So just do that for the other person.
If he loves you he'll love your family if not you just leave him.Love could not come to compromise.If your family treat him well he ought treat them with respect.
Been there. Living with family can ruin a marriage. You need to find honest renters to take your place and move out with your husband.
well maybe give your family a 6 months heads up that you guys are going to move out on your own . then you and your husband get an apartment
Sorry, husband comes first. If he wants to move than ya'll should move out. Your sibling can find roommates if necessary.
Love doesn't pay the mortgage
let him go
Your husband will NOT learn to be happy in a situation he dislikes. You need to grown a backbone when it comes to your parents. Marriage is between a husband and a wife. It does not include parents and siblings. Either way you and hubby need to be on the same page. If you can't compromise on this issue, there will certainly be trouble in your future. If you are serious about loving your husband then you need to move out and live by your own means. It's obvious neither you nor your sibling can afford the home on your own. Your parents can sell the house and hopefully get most or all of their down payment back. Whose goofy idea was this in the first place? What would happen if your sibling gets a partner who moves in too? This is just a recipe for disaster.
It may take you longer to afford a home on your own, but if your willing to work hard at saving, you will reap the benefits later. Best wishes!
Advice for a newlywed?
We were just married on June 30th, and I was wondering if any of you had some jewels of wisdom to pass on to us - before we make any huge mistakes! Thanks in advance...Advice for a newlywed?
Have lots and lots of sex! Make sure you laugh more than you argue. And trust each other.Advice for a newlywed?
Respect love and communication are all very important.
Give 100%. Marriage isn't 50/50. If you only give 50% each you will undoubtedly fall short. whereas if you both give 100% you will be right :D
Try to meet each other's needs and be selfless. There will be times where one of you is more in love than the other or one is stronger than the other. In the end it will all balance out.
Love is wonderful!
The first year is the hardest but so worth it.
Congratulations. Your going to make mistakes and that is okay. Realizing that right now is the best thing both of you can do. Neither of you are perfect and loving each other through the faults brings you closer together anyway.
Communication is key. When communication breaks down or you assume the other person knows things that is the lead off to problems. It's better to let each other know what is upsetting you than let it build. Resentment will creep in and once that happens you are headed down a bad road. I once read that keeping things in and letting them build up to resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. I think that is true. Besides if you don't know something is wrong how can you work at it?
Keep on dating, even after you have kids getting out of the house together is important. Doesn't have to be a big expensive date. I remember when my husband and I first got married and were very young a trip to McDonalds to share fries was a splurge but important ;)
Remember to stay affectionate. Care for each other it's the little things that count, etc. It will not always be perfect. There will be ups and downs but the special thing about marriage is riding it out together.
Never threaten the ';D'; word or leaving unless you plan to follow through. Don't verbally abuse eachother, fight fair.
Remember life is serious have some fun together it doesn't have to end just because your no longer ';dating.';
Again Congratulations!
Don't give up. You will have fights and you will get angry and you will want to shoot each other at times, but don't give up. There is NOTHING that can happen between you two that you can't work out.
trust and pray only way to have a good marriage is gods way
Let him know each day that you admire him and the work he does to take care of you financially. Praise him often, build him up and remember -- you can't take back words said in anger.
Communication!!!!!!!! Mistakes are inevitable, but being able to talk and forgive will keep you going forever.
sarah
communicate!!! no assumptions!!!! no accusations!!! questions and answers only and it has to be mutually. jealousy will kill it.
NEVER go to bed angry with one another. ALWAYS say you love one another first thing in the morning and let it be the last thing you say to one another before going to sleep.
talk about everything.. even if it gets you/him upset.. it won't be as bad as holding it in! if he sucks at doing the dishes *(me and my new hubby just had this fight) TELL HIM instead of being upset you have to do them again LOL.. communication is GOLDEN. and always make up.. don't let things go.. figure out what the best solution and remember you are LEARNING to be married.. and most likely you are LEARNING to live together.. you're working out the kinks!
always put yourself in your spouses shoes.
Communicate- most important thing.
Don't argue over unimportant things - always ask a year from now will this matter.
Most importantly always let each other know you love and appreciate them.
Don't take anything too seriously, let the small stuff go. Accept each others faults and don't try to change each other.
OH, and there's ALWAYS time for lovin!
let the little things go....if he is bothering you, close your eyes and imagine throwing a rock into a still lake....watch the ripples until they disappear and never bring up the small thing that bothered you again....and when all else fails.....have sex
Have lots and lots of sex! Make sure you laugh more than you argue. And trust each other.Advice for a newlywed?
Respect love and communication are all very important.
Give 100%. Marriage isn't 50/50. If you only give 50% each you will undoubtedly fall short. whereas if you both give 100% you will be right :D
Try to meet each other's needs and be selfless. There will be times where one of you is more in love than the other or one is stronger than the other. In the end it will all balance out.
Love is wonderful!
The first year is the hardest but so worth it.
Congratulations. Your going to make mistakes and that is okay. Realizing that right now is the best thing both of you can do. Neither of you are perfect and loving each other through the faults brings you closer together anyway.
Communication is key. When communication breaks down or you assume the other person knows things that is the lead off to problems. It's better to let each other know what is upsetting you than let it build. Resentment will creep in and once that happens you are headed down a bad road. I once read that keeping things in and letting them build up to resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. I think that is true. Besides if you don't know something is wrong how can you work at it?
Keep on dating, even after you have kids getting out of the house together is important. Doesn't have to be a big expensive date. I remember when my husband and I first got married and were very young a trip to McDonalds to share fries was a splurge but important ;)
Remember to stay affectionate. Care for each other it's the little things that count, etc. It will not always be perfect. There will be ups and downs but the special thing about marriage is riding it out together.
Never threaten the ';D'; word or leaving unless you plan to follow through. Don't verbally abuse eachother, fight fair.
Remember life is serious have some fun together it doesn't have to end just because your no longer ';dating.';
Again Congratulations!
Don't give up. You will have fights and you will get angry and you will want to shoot each other at times, but don't give up. There is NOTHING that can happen between you two that you can't work out.
trust and pray only way to have a good marriage is gods way
Let him know each day that you admire him and the work he does to take care of you financially. Praise him often, build him up and remember -- you can't take back words said in anger.
Communication!!!!!!!! Mistakes are inevitable, but being able to talk and forgive will keep you going forever.
sarah
communicate!!! no assumptions!!!! no accusations!!! questions and answers only and it has to be mutually. jealousy will kill it.
NEVER go to bed angry with one another. ALWAYS say you love one another first thing in the morning and let it be the last thing you say to one another before going to sleep.
talk about everything.. even if it gets you/him upset.. it won't be as bad as holding it in! if he sucks at doing the dishes *(me and my new hubby just had this fight) TELL HIM instead of being upset you have to do them again LOL.. communication is GOLDEN. and always make up.. don't let things go.. figure out what the best solution and remember you are LEARNING to be married.. and most likely you are LEARNING to live together.. you're working out the kinks!
always put yourself in your spouses shoes.
Communicate- most important thing.
Don't argue over unimportant things - always ask a year from now will this matter.
Most importantly always let each other know you love and appreciate them.
Don't take anything too seriously, let the small stuff go. Accept each others faults and don't try to change each other.
OH, and there's ALWAYS time for lovin!
let the little things go....if he is bothering you, close your eyes and imagine throwing a rock into a still lake....watch the ripples until they disappear and never bring up the small thing that bothered you again....and when all else fails.....have sex
ANY advice for a NEWLYWED?
My dad gave me one piece of advice that has helped us through 8 years of marriage: Don't ever criticize your spouse in public. If you disagree, talk about it in private. If he is driving you nuts, talk about it in private. If he just did something really rude and insensitive, talk about it in private.
Don't ever call him out in public, because you just made everyone in the room part of your private business. Present a unified front to the world and even to your children.
The second best piece of advice that I can give you is one I learned on my own: Communicate. Expectations can cause a lot of trouble when they aren't met. So communicate about everything. What do you expect, what does he expect, what needs to be done, who will be doing what, when you/he will be home, why you are upset, why he is upset, what you plan to do, talk, talk, talk, talk, and talk. When you communicate enough that you don't expect one thing and get another, you will save yourself a lot of anger, frustration, and arguments.ANY advice for a NEWLYWED?
be honest and open. Don't hold back on your feelings. Try not to sweat the little things. And remember that it is OK to have fun!! Compromise is a big one!
Good Luck and have fun with the hubby!!ANY advice for a NEWLYWED?
1. Don't expect it to be easy
2. Always give more than you think you can
3. Never go to bed angry
4. Don't let your pride get in the way
5. Be honest ALWAYS
6. Remember that a little spontaneity goes a long ways
7. Be ready to learn new things every day
8. Don't sweat the small stuff- save your anger for when it really matters
9. Compromise is key
10. Have fun!!!! Make sure to keep a sense of humor
Best wishes... Good luck!
enjoy your life together...it's a great feeling being a newlywed...I hope it lasts forever :)
best wishes!
Compromise
make a date night and stay open with each other
This may be silly but use all the gifts you get. You will think that something is ';too nice'; so use but just do it. If you are making dinner put it on nice plates. Have a glass of wine in expensive crystal goblets. Don't put something away to use on a special occasion because every day with the man you love is special! Also if you cook make him do the dishes or vice versa. Don't think just because you got married that you want to do everything for your new hubby. I did and now do almost everything. I love him but it wouldn't kill him to unload the dishwasher every now and then! lol
dont forbid him when he hangs out with his buddies...but, set your limits and be definite. sometimes men can be so dense, they just cant see that you're already fuming mad.
Fight if you have to...ONLY if you have to. Then kiss and make up--it's always the best part!
congratulations!!
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty the jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of marbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The marbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ';yes.'; The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
';Now,'; said the professor as the laughter subsided, ';I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--God, your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions--and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The marbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else 鈥漷he small stuff.'; ';If you put the sand into the jar first,'; he continued, ';there is no room for the marbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. ';Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first--the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.';
One of the students raised her hand and asked what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. ';I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.';
Remember happiness is a CHOICE.
Look for the GOOD in each other.
All I can say is TALK TALK TALK. Even if it's about the weather or how eachother's days went. The more silence you have in the relationship, the more distant the relationship gets. Ask his opinion on everything and hope he does the same in return. Even if it's stupid like if you should buy frozen or fresh broccoli. Open communication on important subjects starts with the small stuff. Good luck!
keep the love thriving dont ever let the fire burn out . always be their for each other and dont ever lie to each other and be honest with each other consider each others feelings first.
Lots of nookie!
take a honey moon
NEVER assume you have them ';figured out';.
Stay married forever.
all i can say is............ im sorry you did this to yourself
Enjoy your time being newlywed, know the art of compromise, stay faithful to each other, and love and respect each other as much as you did the very first day you got married.
Don't ever call him out in public, because you just made everyone in the room part of your private business. Present a unified front to the world and even to your children.
The second best piece of advice that I can give you is one I learned on my own: Communicate. Expectations can cause a lot of trouble when they aren't met. So communicate about everything. What do you expect, what does he expect, what needs to be done, who will be doing what, when you/he will be home, why you are upset, why he is upset, what you plan to do, talk, talk, talk, talk, and talk. When you communicate enough that you don't expect one thing and get another, you will save yourself a lot of anger, frustration, and arguments.ANY advice for a NEWLYWED?
be honest and open. Don't hold back on your feelings. Try not to sweat the little things. And remember that it is OK to have fun!! Compromise is a big one!
Good Luck and have fun with the hubby!!ANY advice for a NEWLYWED?
1. Don't expect it to be easy
2. Always give more than you think you can
3. Never go to bed angry
4. Don't let your pride get in the way
5. Be honest ALWAYS
6. Remember that a little spontaneity goes a long ways
7. Be ready to learn new things every day
8. Don't sweat the small stuff- save your anger for when it really matters
9. Compromise is key
10. Have fun!!!! Make sure to keep a sense of humor
Best wishes... Good luck!
enjoy your life together...it's a great feeling being a newlywed...I hope it lasts forever :)
best wishes!
Compromise
make a date night and stay open with each other
This may be silly but use all the gifts you get. You will think that something is ';too nice'; so use but just do it. If you are making dinner put it on nice plates. Have a glass of wine in expensive crystal goblets. Don't put something away to use on a special occasion because every day with the man you love is special! Also if you cook make him do the dishes or vice versa. Don't think just because you got married that you want to do everything for your new hubby. I did and now do almost everything. I love him but it wouldn't kill him to unload the dishwasher every now and then! lol
dont forbid him when he hangs out with his buddies...but, set your limits and be definite. sometimes men can be so dense, they just cant see that you're already fuming mad.
Fight if you have to...ONLY if you have to. Then kiss and make up--it's always the best part!
congratulations!!
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty the jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of marbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The marbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ';yes.'; The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
';Now,'; said the professor as the laughter subsided, ';I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--God, your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions--and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The marbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else 鈥漷he small stuff.'; ';If you put the sand into the jar first,'; he continued, ';there is no room for the marbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. ';Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first--the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.';
One of the students raised her hand and asked what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. ';I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.';
Remember happiness is a CHOICE.
Look for the GOOD in each other.
All I can say is TALK TALK TALK. Even if it's about the weather or how eachother's days went. The more silence you have in the relationship, the more distant the relationship gets. Ask his opinion on everything and hope he does the same in return. Even if it's stupid like if you should buy frozen or fresh broccoli. Open communication on important subjects starts with the small stuff. Good luck!
keep the love thriving dont ever let the fire burn out . always be their for each other and dont ever lie to each other and be honest with each other consider each others feelings first.
Lots of nookie!
take a honey moon
NEVER assume you have them ';figured out';.
Stay married forever.
all i can say is............ im sorry you did this to yourself
Enjoy your time being newlywed, know the art of compromise, stay faithful to each other, and love and respect each other as much as you did the very first day you got married.
Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
Name as many things that you can that are funny, please =]Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
dont hold your farts in. just let em rip! youre married now... who cares!
if the whites turn pink after he did the laundry.. dont make a big fuss.. he didnt know any better (or is color blind).Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
I don't understand your question. What is a newlywed guestbook?
when he's chillin watchin espn... DON'T TALK!!!gloss elizabeth arden
dont hold your farts in. just let em rip! youre married now... who cares!
if the whites turn pink after he did the laundry.. dont make a big fuss.. he didnt know any better (or is color blind).Funny relationship advice for a newlywed guestbook?
I don't understand your question. What is a newlywed guestbook?
when he's chillin watchin espn... DON'T TALK!!!
Advice for newlyweds?
Hi everyone I just recently got married 2 months ago and i wanted any advice you guys had on the union of marriage, staying happy, etc. We are both 23 yrs old. So all experienced advice is welcomed. THANKS!!Advice for newlyweds?
Communicate with each other. Happily Married 26 Years.Advice for newlyweds?
Congrats!!!! remember to talk everything out and don't let little things get in your way such as money . always be there for each other through thick and thin. #1 pointer :when you are in a conflict the two words not say to each other (you aways! you never!) you should do fine GOOD LUCK!
You sweet girl! Best wishes for your happiness.
The only advice I can offer you is, don't try to fix him. Whatever he was when you married him, that's what you get.
For your new husband, I'd suggest, don't be a wimp: work hard, and help out around the house.
Good luck to you both!
understand that a marriage is still two different ppl who will have different opinions from time to time. it's how you deal with differences that will be the make or break.
give each other some space now and then.
although you are a couple, keep your own friends as well, so that you have sounding boards when needed.
remember not to go to bed angry, no matter what. agree to disagree at least until the morning and start again.
Routine can mess up any relationship, but it's also a part of our lives. Just don't act like his mother as we women tend to, be his friend/roommate but not his mommy.
My wife and I have been married for 53 years; and part of the reason it's lasted is because we each had something to give. But also we learned how to admit we're wrong without the embarrassment.
Here's how it goes!
The couple establish between themselves that when one approaches the other, head bowed, and holding their forehead between the thumb and middle finger (something like this /0\ ):
It means:
';I hate it when you're right - it gives me a headache.';
When one is wrong - it's usually sufficient too walk silently past the other in the /0\ mode and all is forgiven.
But sometimes that's not good enough, and then you'll hear ';NO! Ya gotta do better than that.'; So you bow deeper in silence, holding the forehead in a manner as to say - ';This is giving me a migraine!';
Long term marriages are really very nice - so best of everything.
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Be each others best friends. Always talk about everything even if your afraid it might upset the other person. Spend time together don't lead separate lives's. Just have fun and enjoy each other! Congrat's on your marriage!
I f you can avoid the first fight/argument, you will never have problems with the second one.
enjoy life! live, love, and laugh! cherish each other every day. never go to bed angry, always communicate openly, honestly, be faithful, and give, give, give. best of wishes to you two!!!
Congratulations! Best advice I could give is to accept your partner as he is, and hope he will do the same. Remember that even what we might perceive as negative traits can be flip sides of traits we admire in this person. Trying to change something fundamental about your partner is not a good route to take.
COMMUNICATE!!! Be each other's best friends.
Take interest in each other...make sure you don't take your partner for granted!
A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.
Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
Think about this real hard......when you first met how did he act? Now look at him and see what has happened.
I speak from a Male stand point here and not all males are like me when it comes to marriage and desire, but there is a thing called beauty and the beast.
When beauty is new it is sought out with a sex drive to copulate and feel that beauty and hear that beauty.
Once a Male has received all of the cards from this action,. he makes a decision as to what he feels is true and what he feels is fake.
When you have caused the pages to turn again, he wonders why and then comes the non desireable plague that haunts many in marriage. He finds you no longer attractive or doesn't make love longe like he use too, the time gets sghorter and your no romanced like you want to be ...like it was when you met.
The worst thing a woman can do to her husband is giggle and that is taboo, do not ever giggle when he inserts his penis...that is the biggest mistake you can ever make.
This sex drive that Men have can last for decades with the right person,. but if something washes it away in marriage, the drive is gone.
He now looks outside of the home to drive once again with someone else and when he finds this women and he notices that she is brighter than his spouse, she is lovelier than his wife, she will sleep with the husband and what happens is that he now experiences a much more stronger drive than what he had when he met his wife though, his wife had him on a good drive that was okay for him at that time, but it was lost and when she finds him not so great..kaboom.
A smirk or a shout, a dirty look calling him a bad name or giving him the intention that you are not pretty to him even though you may be still pretty to others.
It is the little things in a marriage that destroys it. Name calling, or bad looks, unlceanliness...ect
Any time one of these triggers hit the husband you have found yourself in a bad siatuation where the drive is now gone. Nomatter how pretty you make yourself for him, no mater how sexy you may look in hot pants...you cannot win him back once you have put a scar on his heart. It is almost impossible to win it back.
The secret to a succesful marriage is to never scar each other at all. It must never happen. You must get along with each other beautiful and respect each others wishes. it is something that millions of people fail to conquest in marriage and the marriage fails. The damage is irreversable and it leaves scars.
So a new start is at hand and the infidelities start as he begins his search for a new mate other than his wife. This is a very painful experience expecially when one or the other is really deeply in love and the scar can remove that love from a Male
very quickly and the damage can be permanent.
The lesson to learn from a marriage gone bad, is that you must never allow it to ever happen again.
In many cases a woman or man will make the same mistake again in a new marriage and the repeated offenses begin all over again and once again divorce is at hand.
Maturity
Respect
Honor
Integrity
******************
All of these things must be in place in order to have a good marriage..notice I didn't say love, Ileft that out you know why?
Go figure!!
congradulations! Put God first in your relationship and everything will be o.k.
Be honest and talk to each other when something is bothering you. Compromise when you disagree and come up with something you both can accept. Talking instead of holding problems in, and agreeing together on a solution will make you both feel better and will help to keep fights at a minimum!
Best of luck, congratulations!
It is important that your lives do not revolve around each other. You are married, not joined at the hip. Make sure that you each spend time with your friends and do the things that you did before getting married.
I know that when my husband and I spend to much time together without getting out and spending time with our friends or on our hobbies, we start to get grumpy with each other.
Remember that marriage is not in the past it is a choice each of you make to stay together each and every day. Divorce happens to those who choose to NOT to stay together. Being married gives you no protection from the future so don't put your faith in ';being married';. Instead put your faith in being each others friend and lover. Husband and wife are nothing if you are not friends and lovers. Being in love is the love of discovery, but loving is accepting each other as they are good and bad. If and when you decide to become parents don't lose each other in the roles of ';Mother'; or ';Father';. You will raise your children, but they will NOT stay. When time has past and you are old your children will be busy with their own families. Every day be a friend and lover to your spouse because they also chose to still be married to you that day.
do it all nite and all day!
Communicate with each other. Happily Married 26 Years.Advice for newlyweds?
Congrats!!!! remember to talk everything out and don't let little things get in your way such as money . always be there for each other through thick and thin. #1 pointer :when you are in a conflict the two words not say to each other (you aways! you never!) you should do fine GOOD LUCK!
You sweet girl! Best wishes for your happiness.
The only advice I can offer you is, don't try to fix him. Whatever he was when you married him, that's what you get.
For your new husband, I'd suggest, don't be a wimp: work hard, and help out around the house.
Good luck to you both!
understand that a marriage is still two different ppl who will have different opinions from time to time. it's how you deal with differences that will be the make or break.
give each other some space now and then.
although you are a couple, keep your own friends as well, so that you have sounding boards when needed.
remember not to go to bed angry, no matter what. agree to disagree at least until the morning and start again.
Routine can mess up any relationship, but it's also a part of our lives. Just don't act like his mother as we women tend to, be his friend/roommate but not his mommy.
My wife and I have been married for 53 years; and part of the reason it's lasted is because we each had something to give. But also we learned how to admit we're wrong without the embarrassment.
Here's how it goes!
The couple establish between themselves that when one approaches the other, head bowed, and holding their forehead between the thumb and middle finger (something like this /0\ ):
It means:
';I hate it when you're right - it gives me a headache.';
When one is wrong - it's usually sufficient too walk silently past the other in the /0\ mode and all is forgiven.
But sometimes that's not good enough, and then you'll hear ';NO! Ya gotta do better than that.'; So you bow deeper in silence, holding the forehead in a manner as to say - ';This is giving me a migraine!';
Long term marriages are really very nice - so best of everything.
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Be each others best friends. Always talk about everything even if your afraid it might upset the other person. Spend time together don't lead separate lives's. Just have fun and enjoy each other! Congrat's on your marriage!
I f you can avoid the first fight/argument, you will never have problems with the second one.
enjoy life! live, love, and laugh! cherish each other every day. never go to bed angry, always communicate openly, honestly, be faithful, and give, give, give. best of wishes to you two!!!
Congratulations! Best advice I could give is to accept your partner as he is, and hope he will do the same. Remember that even what we might perceive as negative traits can be flip sides of traits we admire in this person. Trying to change something fundamental about your partner is not a good route to take.
COMMUNICATE!!! Be each other's best friends.
Take interest in each other...make sure you don't take your partner for granted!
A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.
Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
Think about this real hard......when you first met how did he act? Now look at him and see what has happened.
I speak from a Male stand point here and not all males are like me when it comes to marriage and desire, but there is a thing called beauty and the beast.
When beauty is new it is sought out with a sex drive to copulate and feel that beauty and hear that beauty.
Once a Male has received all of the cards from this action,. he makes a decision as to what he feels is true and what he feels is fake.
When you have caused the pages to turn again, he wonders why and then comes the non desireable plague that haunts many in marriage. He finds you no longer attractive or doesn't make love longe like he use too, the time gets sghorter and your no romanced like you want to be ...like it was when you met.
The worst thing a woman can do to her husband is giggle and that is taboo, do not ever giggle when he inserts his penis...that is the biggest mistake you can ever make.
This sex drive that Men have can last for decades with the right person,. but if something washes it away in marriage, the drive is gone.
He now looks outside of the home to drive once again with someone else and when he finds this women and he notices that she is brighter than his spouse, she is lovelier than his wife, she will sleep with the husband and what happens is that he now experiences a much more stronger drive than what he had when he met his wife though, his wife had him on a good drive that was okay for him at that time, but it was lost and when she finds him not so great..kaboom.
A smirk or a shout, a dirty look calling him a bad name or giving him the intention that you are not pretty to him even though you may be still pretty to others.
It is the little things in a marriage that destroys it. Name calling, or bad looks, unlceanliness...ect
Any time one of these triggers hit the husband you have found yourself in a bad siatuation where the drive is now gone. Nomatter how pretty you make yourself for him, no mater how sexy you may look in hot pants...you cannot win him back once you have put a scar on his heart. It is almost impossible to win it back.
The secret to a succesful marriage is to never scar each other at all. It must never happen. You must get along with each other beautiful and respect each others wishes. it is something that millions of people fail to conquest in marriage and the marriage fails. The damage is irreversable and it leaves scars.
So a new start is at hand and the infidelities start as he begins his search for a new mate other than his wife. This is a very painful experience expecially when one or the other is really deeply in love and the scar can remove that love from a Male
very quickly and the damage can be permanent.
The lesson to learn from a marriage gone bad, is that you must never allow it to ever happen again.
In many cases a woman or man will make the same mistake again in a new marriage and the repeated offenses begin all over again and once again divorce is at hand.
Maturity
Respect
Honor
Integrity
******************
All of these things must be in place in order to have a good marriage..notice I didn't say love, Ileft that out you know why?
Go figure!!
congradulations! Put God first in your relationship and everything will be o.k.
Be honest and talk to each other when something is bothering you. Compromise when you disagree and come up with something you both can accept. Talking instead of holding problems in, and agreeing together on a solution will make you both feel better and will help to keep fights at a minimum!
Best of luck, congratulations!
It is important that your lives do not revolve around each other. You are married, not joined at the hip. Make sure that you each spend time with your friends and do the things that you did before getting married.
I know that when my husband and I spend to much time together without getting out and spending time with our friends or on our hobbies, we start to get grumpy with each other.
Remember that marriage is not in the past it is a choice each of you make to stay together each and every day. Divorce happens to those who choose to NOT to stay together. Being married gives you no protection from the future so don't put your faith in ';being married';. Instead put your faith in being each others friend and lover. Husband and wife are nothing if you are not friends and lovers. Being in love is the love of discovery, but loving is accepting each other as they are good and bad. If and when you decide to become parents don't lose each other in the roles of ';Mother'; or ';Father';. You will raise your children, but they will NOT stay. When time has past and you are old your children will be busy with their own families. Every day be a friend and lover to your spouse because they also chose to still be married to you that day.
do it all nite and all day!
Advice for newlyweds?
Hi everyone my husband and I recently got married 2 months ago and i wanted any advice you guys had on the union of marriage, staying happy, etc. We are both 23 yrs old. So all experienced advice is welcomed.Advice for newlyweds?
I am 45, married and mom of 4. I think that you both need to trust each other, and try to be considerate of each other's needs.
I also think you need to retain your sense of humor. Sometime life can throw you a few curve balls and if you lack a sense of humor, it can kill your marriage. Enjoy.Advice for newlyweds?
Thanks for choosing my answer as the best!
Hi, welcome to marriage. I've been married for 26 years, so I do have a bit of experience. The most important things I can tell you are, don't go to bed angry. Work it out, nothing is worse than waking up mad. Always side with your spouse. Even if they are wrong, you can discuss it later. Last and most importantly, never let your spouse forget you love and cherish them. Send flowers for no reason. Leave notes around the house. You get the idea. Good Luck and I hope you are as fortunate as I have been.
TALK EVERYTHING OUT
1. don't allow your heart to be troubled (seeing is believing)
2. keep your business strickly between the 2 of you (everybody
doesn't need to know)
3. compromise is a two way street (marriage requires some
degree of sacrifice)
4. where one is weak the other must be strong (never give up on
each other)
5. don't expect him to read your mind, say what it is that has you upset.
6. honor, trust and obey oh and have plenty of patience
Married 7yrs together 15yrs
dont talk about divorce.ever!
Well, for starters, give lots of hugs and listen to each other intently. Have lots and lots of great sex and become each other's sex slave. Lust after each other. Slow dance naked together in the moonlight. Let you find safety and shelter from the storms of life in the harbor of each others arms. Also, tend to each other at the end of the day. Respect each others space. Try not to get in a rut with the business aspects of being married. To guys, I say do not lose you identty as a man just because you became a husband and to women I say do not lose your identify as a woman just because you became a wife. Do not just love each other--be in love with each other. Do special things for no special reason and make each day a celeration of your ongoing love affair.
Marriage, as an insitution is a great idea. It is a disaster if you choose the wrong person. I'll say no more about that.
Don't ever shut each other out or say ';Fine.'; Do tell each other often how mcuh you are in love with the other person. You are each others very best friend. Believe it or not, you are not resposnible for your husband's happiness nor is he responsible for yours. How can that be? Consider the burden that places on each other. Champion each others accomplishments no matter how small or large.
Well that's a start. May your marriage be blessed with only good things. Congatulations and best wishes for a long life together.
Talk, talk, talk. I was married for only 11 months when my marriage ended and it was incredibly painful and it could have been prevented. We had some issues and instead of working them out (talking about them a nd coming to a compromise) we ignored them and it snowballed. By the time we tried to work on things it was just too much and we gave up. Don't make my mistake.
God created you and God also designed the institute of marriage. The sooner you understand the principles behind marriage and the way in which God desires for two married people to exist, the better off you will be.
Always remember to do all of the things that you use to do.
What got him is what will keep him
The family that plays together,,stays together. ;O)
congratulation!!! don't talk about work when you guys are @ home. only if there's funny stories to tell. time together are special, find things to do together whether it's hobbies, activities, or things around the house. remember, he's your best friend. the little time you have together, just make it fun for both of you. the key ingredients are trust, fun, and happiness. make it so that both of you guys enjoy to be together.
When you can't talk things out between the two of you, set someone as a designated arbitrator. Make it someone you can both trust. Most of the time, when you have what you say repeated back to you, you realize just how crazy you sound. Example: a guy I know was telling me once how he wasn't allowed to go see movies with a certain pretty movie actress in them, because he had mentioned that he thought she was pretty, so instead they were going to go see the new Brad Pitt movie so his wife could swoon over him. When I said, ';Wait, so it's okay for her to swoon over a movie star, but not you?'; he suddenly was able to put into words what he had always thought was unfair but couldn't explain how. His wife and he figured out what was okay and what wasn't on much more fair terms after that. But you'll be amazed how many times you fall into traps like that without even realizing it, on both sides. You'll say something that sounds totally alright when you're saying it, and it will upset him, but he won't be able to express how because he's in the heat of the moment. But someone on the outside will go, ';Wait wait wait... did you really mean...'; and you'll go, ';Oh my gosh... was I really being that selfish?'; or, ';Wow, I didn't realize he was being so unreasonable.';
We've been happily married for over 36 years. The pastor that counciled us said that if we could avoid arguing about money issues, we'd be waaaaay ahead of many couples. He was right.
We've seen the marriages and relationships of many friends fall apart, and by contrast to OUR relationship, I can tell you some of the main reasons.
Ideally, a couple should have a good amount of ';shared interests.'; Why do you want to spend your life with this other person? How compatible are they with you? When you start to have too many separate interests and friends, that's one danger signal.
Many couples - young and otherwise - don't have enough tolerance for one another's shortcomings or enough forgiveness when things go wrong. Too many couples are just too darn selfish. There's too much ';me-me-me.'; It should be about ';us.';
Just ';spending time'; together is important; you actually have to be ';doing'; anything. There is no such thing as ';quality time.'; You may THINK there is, but no. When it comes to ';time'; in a relationship, it's more a matter of quantity over quality. Well, we all like to have fun when we're together, of course, but you really cannot ';make up'; for lost time. You can try, you can do ';damage control,'; but you marry someone because you just want to ';be'; with them for the rest of your life.
People also need a certain amount of ';alone time,'; too, and how they USE that time is strictly up to them. They may choose to share it with you or not. Of course, I'm not talking about going out all the time bar hopping and then saying,';none of your business where I was.'; I'm just saying everyone needs a little space to do whatever it is they need to do. Alone.
And even if you happen to have great paying jobs with more ';expendable income'; than you know what to do with, learn to enjoy and appreciate the ';little things'; in life. Money isn't everything.
Remember to still be a couple, everyone seems to forget about doing things together after marriage because everyone paints a picture of just bills, bills, stress, and bills. Remember to still spend as much time together as you can and go out and ';date'; keep a healthy sex life by trying to surprise your husband, but don't scare him (lol). Also as a new wife there will probably arise the situation with the inlaws, and even your family, remember to set boundaries, don't leak out too much information about your relationship out to anyone too closely related to you or him, and always support, trust and love your husband, but keep yourself happy too, it's going to be tough, but by building a good unified team is a great start, that way there are no problems to tear you both apart, good luck and congratulations :)
Congratulations. I would say be honest and open about your feelings. Don't hide anything.
I've been married for twelve years. I think the best advice I can give you is never go to bed mad. Life is too short. Talk it out and let it be. Don't hold a grudge. Lastly, pray and worship together. Congrats!! Be Blessed!
I am 45, married and mom of 4. I think that you both need to trust each other, and try to be considerate of each other's needs.
I also think you need to retain your sense of humor. Sometime life can throw you a few curve balls and if you lack a sense of humor, it can kill your marriage. Enjoy.Advice for newlyweds?
Thanks for choosing my answer as the best!
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Hi, welcome to marriage. I've been married for 26 years, so I do have a bit of experience. The most important things I can tell you are, don't go to bed angry. Work it out, nothing is worse than waking up mad. Always side with your spouse. Even if they are wrong, you can discuss it later. Last and most importantly, never let your spouse forget you love and cherish them. Send flowers for no reason. Leave notes around the house. You get the idea. Good Luck and I hope you are as fortunate as I have been.
TALK EVERYTHING OUT
1. don't allow your heart to be troubled (seeing is believing)
2. keep your business strickly between the 2 of you (everybody
doesn't need to know)
3. compromise is a two way street (marriage requires some
degree of sacrifice)
4. where one is weak the other must be strong (never give up on
each other)
5. don't expect him to read your mind, say what it is that has you upset.
6. honor, trust and obey oh and have plenty of patience
Married 7yrs together 15yrs
dont talk about divorce.ever!
Well, for starters, give lots of hugs and listen to each other intently. Have lots and lots of great sex and become each other's sex slave. Lust after each other. Slow dance naked together in the moonlight. Let you find safety and shelter from the storms of life in the harbor of each others arms. Also, tend to each other at the end of the day. Respect each others space. Try not to get in a rut with the business aspects of being married. To guys, I say do not lose you identty as a man just because you became a husband and to women I say do not lose your identify as a woman just because you became a wife. Do not just love each other--be in love with each other. Do special things for no special reason and make each day a celeration of your ongoing love affair.
Marriage, as an insitution is a great idea. It is a disaster if you choose the wrong person. I'll say no more about that.
Don't ever shut each other out or say ';Fine.'; Do tell each other often how mcuh you are in love with the other person. You are each others very best friend. Believe it or not, you are not resposnible for your husband's happiness nor is he responsible for yours. How can that be? Consider the burden that places on each other. Champion each others accomplishments no matter how small or large.
Well that's a start. May your marriage be blessed with only good things. Congatulations and best wishes for a long life together.
Talk, talk, talk. I was married for only 11 months when my marriage ended and it was incredibly painful and it could have been prevented. We had some issues and instead of working them out (talking about them a nd coming to a compromise) we ignored them and it snowballed. By the time we tried to work on things it was just too much and we gave up. Don't make my mistake.
God created you and God also designed the institute of marriage. The sooner you understand the principles behind marriage and the way in which God desires for two married people to exist, the better off you will be.
Always remember to do all of the things that you use to do.
What got him is what will keep him
The family that plays together,,stays together. ;O)
congratulation!!! don't talk about work when you guys are @ home. only if there's funny stories to tell. time together are special, find things to do together whether it's hobbies, activities, or things around the house. remember, he's your best friend. the little time you have together, just make it fun for both of you. the key ingredients are trust, fun, and happiness. make it so that both of you guys enjoy to be together.
When you can't talk things out between the two of you, set someone as a designated arbitrator. Make it someone you can both trust. Most of the time, when you have what you say repeated back to you, you realize just how crazy you sound. Example: a guy I know was telling me once how he wasn't allowed to go see movies with a certain pretty movie actress in them, because he had mentioned that he thought she was pretty, so instead they were going to go see the new Brad Pitt movie so his wife could swoon over him. When I said, ';Wait, so it's okay for her to swoon over a movie star, but not you?'; he suddenly was able to put into words what he had always thought was unfair but couldn't explain how. His wife and he figured out what was okay and what wasn't on much more fair terms after that. But you'll be amazed how many times you fall into traps like that without even realizing it, on both sides. You'll say something that sounds totally alright when you're saying it, and it will upset him, but he won't be able to express how because he's in the heat of the moment. But someone on the outside will go, ';Wait wait wait... did you really mean...'; and you'll go, ';Oh my gosh... was I really being that selfish?'; or, ';Wow, I didn't realize he was being so unreasonable.';
We've been happily married for over 36 years. The pastor that counciled us said that if we could avoid arguing about money issues, we'd be waaaaay ahead of many couples. He was right.
We've seen the marriages and relationships of many friends fall apart, and by contrast to OUR relationship, I can tell you some of the main reasons.
Ideally, a couple should have a good amount of ';shared interests.'; Why do you want to spend your life with this other person? How compatible are they with you? When you start to have too many separate interests and friends, that's one danger signal.
Many couples - young and otherwise - don't have enough tolerance for one another's shortcomings or enough forgiveness when things go wrong. Too many couples are just too darn selfish. There's too much ';me-me-me.'; It should be about ';us.';
Just ';spending time'; together is important; you actually have to be ';doing'; anything. There is no such thing as ';quality time.'; You may THINK there is, but no. When it comes to ';time'; in a relationship, it's more a matter of quantity over quality. Well, we all like to have fun when we're together, of course, but you really cannot ';make up'; for lost time. You can try, you can do ';damage control,'; but you marry someone because you just want to ';be'; with them for the rest of your life.
People also need a certain amount of ';alone time,'; too, and how they USE that time is strictly up to them. They may choose to share it with you or not. Of course, I'm not talking about going out all the time bar hopping and then saying,';none of your business where I was.'; I'm just saying everyone needs a little space to do whatever it is they need to do. Alone.
And even if you happen to have great paying jobs with more ';expendable income'; than you know what to do with, learn to enjoy and appreciate the ';little things'; in life. Money isn't everything.
Remember to still be a couple, everyone seems to forget about doing things together after marriage because everyone paints a picture of just bills, bills, stress, and bills. Remember to still spend as much time together as you can and go out and ';date'; keep a healthy sex life by trying to surprise your husband, but don't scare him (lol). Also as a new wife there will probably arise the situation with the inlaws, and even your family, remember to set boundaries, don't leak out too much information about your relationship out to anyone too closely related to you or him, and always support, trust and love your husband, but keep yourself happy too, it's going to be tough, but by building a good unified team is a great start, that way there are no problems to tear you both apart, good luck and congratulations :)
Congratulations. I would say be honest and open about your feelings. Don't hide anything.
I've been married for twelve years. I think the best advice I can give you is never go to bed mad. Life is too short. Talk it out and let it be. Don't hold a grudge. Lastly, pray and worship together. Congrats!! Be Blessed!
Advice for newlyweds?
I just want advice about marriage in general. Please keep answers clean. Thanks!Advice for newlyweds?
im not married, however i did ask a question related to that and i got some AMAZING feed back. so if you get the chance, click on my profile, go to '; my questions'; then you should see that i asked it in 3 different categories so read them all....i got some great new insight. good luck!Advice for newlyweds?
Make the effort. It is your marriage and it does take work. Some of it will be easy and some of it will be tough.
Keep your sex life alive and kicking all the time.
Have fun dates.
Compliment each other and go out of your way to please each other and make each other happy.
When you have a disagreement, never attack the other person with ';You always...'; etc. Argue from the angle that ';I'm upset because...'; so that your spouse doesn't feel like he or she isn't being understood. Communication is the vitally important thing. Talk things out as calmly as you can.
Stay away from game-playing. It's an easy habit to slip into and it's so harmful to your marriage. Always try to be frank and straightforward in expressing how you feel about something. Ask your spouse to be as honest. If you don't feel like compromising over an issue, say so.....and make a deal with him that if you can be selfish sometimes, he can be too. You just have to keep it balanced.
And if he does something to piss you off, try to think about his good points and the times when he's been supportive and loving (not easy, but possible!).
Just keep in mind that you're each other's comfort and oasis from the hard cold world. Be kind and thoughtful toward each other and that will go along way to deepening your bond over the years to come.
Respect each other and agree to disagree on some things. Just because you are a couple it does not mean that you have to think the same way. Laugh as much as possible and yes, communication is very important, but think before you speak. Once it is out of your mouth, it is ';out there'; and like the saying goes, ';It is not the words that people remember, it is the way you made them feel';. Above all, remember, the more you give, the more you get, especially love.
How can I give advice when you make such a general statement? I could go on for days and days. It would never end. You would get tired of me rambling on and on about silly crap!
Listen-the only thing that's important is that the both of you are happy. Try never to go to bed angry at each other, wake up in the morning and say I love you, give him a kiss on his way to work, flirt with him, he like's it, tell him that he's the best thing since slice bread, do something crazy for him in bed, something he'll always take with him on those long trips away from home. And most of all, you're in love, try and keep these first happy moments with you you entire life.
RESPECT each other, THINK before you speak. KISS each other EVERY DAY, TRUST each other, BE KIND to one another-don't harbor any anger or resentment- TALK things out ALWAYS, and ENJOY each other. Take time out to just ';talk'; and be ';friends!'; CONGRATULATIONS on starting a NEW life TOGETHER! =)
Marrage is a partnership 50/50 give and take , accept each other for who you are and dont try to change the other person . always keep an open mind and listen to what your partner is trying to tell you .
Well, don't cuckold your husband. It's a very nasty thing to do. Be faithful to him. Sorry, but my own experience with the girl i have married has somewhat changed my view of married women, or women in general. Just be loyal to your husband, is all i can say. Never ever let any other guy impregnate you, ok?
Communication from personal experience. I lost the love of my life, my soul mate because we did not communicate very well with each other, but everything else was perfect! He past away 2 years after our divorce, and I never got to tell him anything I ever wanted to tell him, which is bad on my part because he left a letter for me. So please make sure you are both open with each other over everything no matter what. Just remember that everyone has problems and arguing is all part of a healthy relationship. Work together on things like a team and you will pull through anything. Congratulations on your marriage! I hope I was of help to you both.
im not married, however i did ask a question related to that and i got some AMAZING feed back. so if you get the chance, click on my profile, go to '; my questions'; then you should see that i asked it in 3 different categories so read them all....i got some great new insight. good luck!Advice for newlyweds?
Make the effort. It is your marriage and it does take work. Some of it will be easy and some of it will be tough.
Keep your sex life alive and kicking all the time.
Have fun dates.
Compliment each other and go out of your way to please each other and make each other happy.
When you have a disagreement, never attack the other person with ';You always...'; etc. Argue from the angle that ';I'm upset because...'; so that your spouse doesn't feel like he or she isn't being understood. Communication is the vitally important thing. Talk things out as calmly as you can.
Stay away from game-playing. It's an easy habit to slip into and it's so harmful to your marriage. Always try to be frank and straightforward in expressing how you feel about something. Ask your spouse to be as honest. If you don't feel like compromising over an issue, say so.....and make a deal with him that if you can be selfish sometimes, he can be too. You just have to keep it balanced.
And if he does something to piss you off, try to think about his good points and the times when he's been supportive and loving (not easy, but possible!).
Just keep in mind that you're each other's comfort and oasis from the hard cold world. Be kind and thoughtful toward each other and that will go along way to deepening your bond over the years to come.
Respect each other and agree to disagree on some things. Just because you are a couple it does not mean that you have to think the same way. Laugh as much as possible and yes, communication is very important, but think before you speak. Once it is out of your mouth, it is ';out there'; and like the saying goes, ';It is not the words that people remember, it is the way you made them feel';. Above all, remember, the more you give, the more you get, especially love.
How can I give advice when you make such a general statement? I could go on for days and days. It would never end. You would get tired of me rambling on and on about silly crap!
Listen-the only thing that's important is that the both of you are happy. Try never to go to bed angry at each other, wake up in the morning and say I love you, give him a kiss on his way to work, flirt with him, he like's it, tell him that he's the best thing since slice bread, do something crazy for him in bed, something he'll always take with him on those long trips away from home. And most of all, you're in love, try and keep these first happy moments with you you entire life.
RESPECT each other, THINK before you speak. KISS each other EVERY DAY, TRUST each other, BE KIND to one another-don't harbor any anger or resentment- TALK things out ALWAYS, and ENJOY each other. Take time out to just ';talk'; and be ';friends!'; CONGRATULATIONS on starting a NEW life TOGETHER! =)
Marrage is a partnership 50/50 give and take , accept each other for who you are and dont try to change the other person . always keep an open mind and listen to what your partner is trying to tell you .
Well, don't cuckold your husband. It's a very nasty thing to do. Be faithful to him. Sorry, but my own experience with the girl i have married has somewhat changed my view of married women, or women in general. Just be loyal to your husband, is all i can say. Never ever let any other guy impregnate you, ok?
Communication from personal experience. I lost the love of my life, my soul mate because we did not communicate very well with each other, but everything else was perfect! He past away 2 years after our divorce, and I never got to tell him anything I ever wanted to tell him, which is bad on my part because he left a letter for me. So please make sure you are both open with each other over everything no matter what. Just remember that everyone has problems and arguing is all part of a healthy relationship. Work together on things like a team and you will pull through anything. Congratulations on your marriage! I hope I was of help to you both.
Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
My friend and I are making a book for our friends who are getting married. We are putting quotes, verses, phrases, etc. that have to do with being married into our book. This is a fun light-hearted gift and we would LOVE to include your advice...
So some of our topics are:
Making Love/ Baby Making
Cooking/ In the Kitchen
Dealing with In Laws/ Holidays
Communication
... whatever you got! THANKS!!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
For the husband to always be happy he only needs to use two words: Yes Dear.
Another favorite: you'll get used to it !! This one can be used for anything the other one dislikes.
My husband wears the pants in our family, I just tell him what type and what color.
He rules the roost and I rule the rooster.Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
Its not worth a divorce to fight over who forgot the toothpaste cap.
Its not worth a divorce over socks on the floor.
Its not worth a divorce hes ten mins or even an hour late from work and didnt call.
Take notice, the woman is the glue of the relationship, she excuses the ';rules'; infractions, she supports him when hes home tired from work, she puts out his work clothes and has breakfast waiting for him, she treats him like the man she wishes him to continue to be.
Take notice, she will talk your ear off just smile and nod and agree, she needs you as a sounding board now that calling friends isnt as fun as discussing it with her ';singnificant other';.
He rubs her back when shes sore, rubs her temples to relieve her stress, brings home flowers occassionally she enjoys not only that your thinking of her, but the reminder all day and night you were thinking of her.
Dont expect to always communicate successfully, each needs to learn when to give in quickly to avoid a fight.
Start working TOGETHER in taking responsibility for and in doing the household chores, situations immediately.
ALL of them, REGARDLESS of perceived gender biases.
At some point in your life, your mate will NOT be available, and you will need to know how to do things on your own whether it be load the dishwasher, fix a flat, change a baby, mow a lawn, stitch a seam, catch a rat, sooth a upset child, deal with each other's parents, etc., etc., etc. alone--- Bank on it.
my husband helps me a lot in the kitchen by cleaning his plate after I cook.
when friends ask why you don't have children yet, tell them you are having too much fun trying.
always let your spouse give their opinion even though you are always right.
as far as the in laws, learn to laugh at their corny jokes and smile when you want to scream.
make love like there is no tomorrow, because there just might not be.
don't get him a big screen tv because thats all he will do : watch it.
throw him out the window (sorry something stupid that was in my mind for some random reason and i couldn't get it out of my head... don;t do that%26gt;..)
Good luck! :D
Communication: Don't sweat the small stuff. You're alive today...so live. Cooking: If it's stuck to the pan it's ';well done'; if it's raw in the middle it's ';European Cuisine.';
Instead of a notorious ';Penny Jar';, keep a ';Dollar Jar'; to track your lovemaking, then you'll have some cash for a trip on your one-year anniversary!
Being married is like living in California, when you find a fault, DON'T DWELL ON IT.
Classic: Happy wife, happy life.
May all your UP and DOWN... be UNDER THE SHEETS.
';Honey, Is the reason you want to get in my panties is because you sh** yours';?
How a husband apologizes: I am SO SORRY!!! With a serious expression and a sincere tone.
How my wife apologizes:
We were on a vacation staying with relatives. First we stayed with my sister and then my parents. The whole situation started at my sisters house. You see my niece was a teenager at the time and she had accidentally bought the wrong size panties at the mall so she gave them to our 8 year old daughter.
My daughter opened the package and put them in her suitcase without mentioning anything to anyone. Two days later, at my parents house, my wife decided to do laundry. She dumped my suitcase and my daughters suitcase into one big pile of clothes.
The next thing I knew my wife was standing in front of me holding a very small pair of pink panties and demanding to know ';who'; I was having an affair with. Now mind you - I have NEVER cheated on my wife. NEVER. So I was dumbfounded. I stammered and stuttered for a while. Then I looked closely at the panties - sized about right for an 8 year old girl. I said indignantly ';you aren't accusing me of having an affair, you are accusing me of being a child molester, look at the size of those things';. She said ';they were in your suitcase - explain that';. She thought they must have come from my suitcase - since they were a different style then those she bought for our daughter - so it never occurred to her they might have come from our daughters suitcase.
Finally she frowned and left the room. I went back to my computer a bit anxious and a LOT confused. A couple hours later she came back into the den where I was working and said ';I found out where those panties came from';. She then proceeded to explain the gift from our niece to our daughter. When she finished I asked: ';Do you have something to say to me';? Without missing a beat she replied in a firm and strong voice ';You are SOOO Lucky';.
So in our marriage, the wife apologizes by saying ';you are so lucky';.
So some of our topics are:
Making Love/ Baby Making
Cooking/ In the Kitchen
Dealing with In Laws/ Holidays
Communication
... whatever you got! THANKS!!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
For the husband to always be happy he only needs to use two words: Yes Dear.
Another favorite: you'll get used to it !! This one can be used for anything the other one dislikes.
My husband wears the pants in our family, I just tell him what type and what color.
He rules the roost and I rule the rooster.Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
Its not worth a divorce to fight over who forgot the toothpaste cap.
Its not worth a divorce over socks on the floor.
Its not worth a divorce hes ten mins or even an hour late from work and didnt call.
Take notice, the woman is the glue of the relationship, she excuses the ';rules'; infractions, she supports him when hes home tired from work, she puts out his work clothes and has breakfast waiting for him, she treats him like the man she wishes him to continue to be.
Take notice, she will talk your ear off just smile and nod and agree, she needs you as a sounding board now that calling friends isnt as fun as discussing it with her ';singnificant other';.
He rubs her back when shes sore, rubs her temples to relieve her stress, brings home flowers occassionally she enjoys not only that your thinking of her, but the reminder all day and night you were thinking of her.
Dont expect to always communicate successfully, each needs to learn when to give in quickly to avoid a fight.
Start working TOGETHER in taking responsibility for and in doing the household chores, situations immediately.
ALL of them, REGARDLESS of perceived gender biases.
At some point in your life, your mate will NOT be available, and you will need to know how to do things on your own whether it be load the dishwasher, fix a flat, change a baby, mow a lawn, stitch a seam, catch a rat, sooth a upset child, deal with each other's parents, etc., etc., etc. alone--- Bank on it.
my husband helps me a lot in the kitchen by cleaning his plate after I cook.
when friends ask why you don't have children yet, tell them you are having too much fun trying.
always let your spouse give their opinion even though you are always right.
as far as the in laws, learn to laugh at their corny jokes and smile when you want to scream.
make love like there is no tomorrow, because there just might not be.
don't get him a big screen tv because thats all he will do : watch it.
throw him out the window (sorry something stupid that was in my mind for some random reason and i couldn't get it out of my head... don;t do that%26gt;..)
Good luck! :D
Communication: Don't sweat the small stuff. You're alive today...so live. Cooking: If it's stuck to the pan it's ';well done'; if it's raw in the middle it's ';European Cuisine.';
Instead of a notorious ';Penny Jar';, keep a ';Dollar Jar'; to track your lovemaking, then you'll have some cash for a trip on your one-year anniversary!
Being married is like living in California, when you find a fault, DON'T DWELL ON IT.
Classic: Happy wife, happy life.
May all your UP and DOWN... be UNDER THE SHEETS.
';Honey, Is the reason you want to get in my panties is because you sh** yours';?
How a husband apologizes: I am SO SORRY!!! With a serious expression and a sincere tone.
How my wife apologizes:
We were on a vacation staying with relatives. First we stayed with my sister and then my parents. The whole situation started at my sisters house. You see my niece was a teenager at the time and she had accidentally bought the wrong size panties at the mall so she gave them to our 8 year old daughter.
My daughter opened the package and put them in her suitcase without mentioning anything to anyone. Two days later, at my parents house, my wife decided to do laundry. She dumped my suitcase and my daughters suitcase into one big pile of clothes.
The next thing I knew my wife was standing in front of me holding a very small pair of pink panties and demanding to know ';who'; I was having an affair with. Now mind you - I have NEVER cheated on my wife. NEVER. So I was dumbfounded. I stammered and stuttered for a while. Then I looked closely at the panties - sized about right for an 8 year old girl. I said indignantly ';you aren't accusing me of having an affair, you are accusing me of being a child molester, look at the size of those things';. She said ';they were in your suitcase - explain that';. She thought they must have come from my suitcase - since they were a different style then those she bought for our daughter - so it never occurred to her they might have come from our daughters suitcase.
Finally she frowned and left the room. I went back to my computer a bit anxious and a LOT confused. A couple hours later she came back into the den where I was working and said ';I found out where those panties came from';. She then proceeded to explain the gift from our niece to our daughter. When she finished I asked: ';Do you have something to say to me';? Without missing a beat she replied in a firm and strong voice ';You are SOOO Lucky';.
So in our marriage, the wife apologizes by saying ';you are so lucky';.
Do you have any good advice for a newlywed couple?
I'm getting married this summer and was wondering if anyone had any good advice to share? Is there anything that you wish that you would have known or been told before getting married?
We will be moving in together after we are married. Neither one of us has lived with a member of the opposite sex before. We haven't been married either and we haven't had sex with one another.Do you have any good advice for a newlywed couple?
Well, first off let me say good job on waiting on each other until marriage, and couples that live together before marriage are more likely to be divorced. I think these are some good tips
- Patience is a virtue
- Money does not buy happinness - although it helps a lot.
- Routine will make the marriage dull and boring
- Sex should get better not worst. It is not a job or a drag.
- Compromise. Happy Medium.
- You will never cook as good as his mother.
- You are not his mother.
- Both of you need a little space - alone time.
- Both of you need to keep your friends.
- Have a guys night out or a girls night out, at least once every month.
- Play with each other.
- Hold hands.
- Cook together.
- If one cooks, the other cleans the dishes.
- If he is ranting and screaming because he misplaced the keys or the remote, leave him be. He will calm down eventuallly (usually within five minutes).
- Travel during your vacations.
- Watch sports. Make him watch a chick flick for every two hours of sports you watch.
- Past lovers and girlfriends are in the PAST.
- Both of your families will try to give you advice and opinions take the ones you need, forget the other ones.
- When kids arrive, do not argue in front of them
Its simple. Just love each other. There should be no doubt in your mind if this person is the one for you, and i believe that is why a lot of marriages do not last because they have doubts (many friends of mine, male and female, have had their doubts even on their wedding day and still went through with it, and are now divorced). Make each other top priority, and treat each day like it is your last day with each other. Good luck to you. In my opinion it sounds like you are off to a good start.Do you have any good advice for a newlywed couple?
I'd advise that you do all the things you've been waiting to do before you get married. How are you planning on spending the rest of your life with someone you know nothing about? Dating someone and living with them are two completely things. The sex thing is between you and him, but I personally would never have married my husband without sleeping with him first. I know people say sex is overrated, but it really does affect your marriage. You're essentially binding yourself to a life you know nothing about. I assume the reason you've waited on everything is due to some sort of religion, but just consider testing out the living together thing and the sex thing before you get married.
Heck yeah..there are a lot of things-The whole sex thing I wish someone had talked to me about. The only advice I can give is that most of your arguments will be centered around just two issues: Sex and money...either you will argue about lack of sex or someone wanting it to much. The same thing with money lack of or someone is spending to much. Trust me if you can some how get those two issues straightened out before you go to the altar you will avoid some problems. I would definitely (if your religion allows) go to a pre-marriage counselor.
I am most impressed with the two of you, your standards %26amp; the way you have conducted your lives in such a disposable %26amp; self-seeking society that we've become. You stand heads %26amp; shoulders among those around you.
You are being given the opportunity to learn about each other from each other.
Of course you know that marriage takes love, patience, forgiveness, understanding, %26amp; humor. There are things you will find out about your mate and yourself that you don't know anything about right now. You need to stay flexible.
The best advice I can give you is to make sure you keep God in your lives. And believe me there's enough out there to take you in all different directions. But I promise you, that if you keep God number one, your love will grow deeper between you for all those years you have promised. Without Him some may luck-out but without Him, you are guaranteed failure.
Be patient with each other, communicate, listen to each other, don't let little things get to you, you are not perfect and neither is your spouse, most of all ENJOY each other!
Well that's most unusual and sorry to say it but chances are you'll be seperated pretty soon after the wedding.
Have sex. Lots of it. ;)
You've come to the right place. Walk this way while I tell you my thoughts about marriage...
We will be moving in together after we are married. Neither one of us has lived with a member of the opposite sex before. We haven't been married either and we haven't had sex with one another.Do you have any good advice for a newlywed couple?
Well, first off let me say good job on waiting on each other until marriage, and couples that live together before marriage are more likely to be divorced. I think these are some good tips
- Patience is a virtue
- Money does not buy happinness - although it helps a lot.
- Routine will make the marriage dull and boring
- Sex should get better not worst. It is not a job or a drag.
- Compromise. Happy Medium.
- You will never cook as good as his mother.
- You are not his mother.
- Both of you need a little space - alone time.
- Both of you need to keep your friends.
- Have a guys night out or a girls night out, at least once every month.
- Play with each other.
- Hold hands.
- Cook together.
- If one cooks, the other cleans the dishes.
- If he is ranting and screaming because he misplaced the keys or the remote, leave him be. He will calm down eventuallly (usually within five minutes).
- Travel during your vacations.
- Watch sports. Make him watch a chick flick for every two hours of sports you watch.
- Past lovers and girlfriends are in the PAST.
- Both of your families will try to give you advice and opinions take the ones you need, forget the other ones.
- When kids arrive, do not argue in front of them
Its simple. Just love each other. There should be no doubt in your mind if this person is the one for you, and i believe that is why a lot of marriages do not last because they have doubts (many friends of mine, male and female, have had their doubts even on their wedding day and still went through with it, and are now divorced). Make each other top priority, and treat each day like it is your last day with each other. Good luck to you. In my opinion it sounds like you are off to a good start.Do you have any good advice for a newlywed couple?
I'd advise that you do all the things you've been waiting to do before you get married. How are you planning on spending the rest of your life with someone you know nothing about? Dating someone and living with them are two completely things. The sex thing is between you and him, but I personally would never have married my husband without sleeping with him first. I know people say sex is overrated, but it really does affect your marriage. You're essentially binding yourself to a life you know nothing about. I assume the reason you've waited on everything is due to some sort of religion, but just consider testing out the living together thing and the sex thing before you get married.
Heck yeah..there are a lot of things-The whole sex thing I wish someone had talked to me about. The only advice I can give is that most of your arguments will be centered around just two issues: Sex and money...either you will argue about lack of sex or someone wanting it to much. The same thing with money lack of or someone is spending to much. Trust me if you can some how get those two issues straightened out before you go to the altar you will avoid some problems. I would definitely (if your religion allows) go to a pre-marriage counselor.
I am most impressed with the two of you, your standards %26amp; the way you have conducted your lives in such a disposable %26amp; self-seeking society that we've become. You stand heads %26amp; shoulders among those around you.
You are being given the opportunity to learn about each other from each other.
Of course you know that marriage takes love, patience, forgiveness, understanding, %26amp; humor. There are things you will find out about your mate and yourself that you don't know anything about right now. You need to stay flexible.
The best advice I can give you is to make sure you keep God in your lives. And believe me there's enough out there to take you in all different directions. But I promise you, that if you keep God number one, your love will grow deeper between you for all those years you have promised. Without Him some may luck-out but without Him, you are guaranteed failure.
Be patient with each other, communicate, listen to each other, don't let little things get to you, you are not perfect and neither is your spouse, most of all ENJOY each other!
Well that's most unusual and sorry to say it but chances are you'll be seperated pretty soon after the wedding.
Have sex. Lots of it. ;)
You've come to the right place. Walk this way while I tell you my thoughts about marriage...
Advice for a newlywed?
I just got married about 2 weeks ago and I'm looking for advice on how to keep the romance alive. I know we'll get into a routine...we already kind of have as we've lived together almost 2 years already...but I want to make sure we keep romance in the marriage and make sure he always knows how much I love him. Any advice?Advice for a newlywed?
Read ';The Five Love Languages'; by Dr. Gary Chapman.
It's a must-read for all couples. And it's short, inexpensive, very helpful and has easy to follow suggestions on making sure you and your spouse know what to do to make the other feel really loved and appreciate.
I strongly recommend that you google the book title and get started--perhaps with the sample online quiz.Advice for a newlywed?
Congrats! for your marriage. My advice is keep exploring each other and this should never end.
secondly, highlight the positive points in your partner and suppress the negative ones as being a human every person has a set of both.
Lastly, it takes two to fight. Douse fire with water and don't the two of you start firing together. Second one can wait for later on.
I know, I went farther than what you askes but the other two points will help in exploring and getting explored a continuous process.
Best of luck for your newly wed life ahead.
Honestly, in about 5 months your going to hit a rough patch. You will bicker over nothing. Why, because the honeymoon is over. Seriously. Prior to the wedding you were excited, you were happy, you had all these happy emotions going thru you and then yoru wedding day, biggest day of your life! After that..... nothing. In about 5 months things will settle and you'll get frustrated. happens to almost everyone.
They say the first year of marriage is the hardest. So try not to make things perfect, but make things fun and happy. If you try to hard, you will disappoint yourself.
Having lived together for so long makes it hard to think of such things you want. That is unless you really didn't try to do things like little things to surprise each other along the way. The secret is usually tied to keeping things fresh, doing new things together, doing things for each other, etc. Exploring new things you both may like may be the biggest possibility.
I think you are on the right track already. Just as long as you are BOTH making a conscious effort to keep the romance alive you will. It's the couples who don't make this stuff a priority that it fades.
Always be trying new things [[like traveling]] together. Experiencing new things will subconsciously trigger those feelings you had when things were new and exciting between the two of you.
Thats real simple, dont make him have to ask for it, offer it at the most unusual times and let him do the things you have said no to in the past. You will surprise him and keep his interest on a constant. Men hate routine when it comes to the bedroom and it doesnt take much to make us happy. Dress sexy just do you make up and proposition him without words if you get my drift and let him know your totally open to him doing the same to you and that you really love it as well. Rather simple dont ya think?
Well i have been married for 4 years in 4 months. I have kept the romance as of making a date night every week. Like once a month we do it extra special like take my daughter to someone and its just me and him, but the other days have date night we do something as a family. I love my husband and he knows that i dearly do for taking care of him. I cook his breakfast pack his lunch for the day and when i come home from work i make his Dinner, I then attend my baby girl and him while i clean up the house. I am curently 4 1/2 months pregnant and work from 7:30-4:30. I do quit a bit but he sees that i take good care of him and he thanks me and makes sure i know that everyday!! Good luck on your marriage. Allways talk things out when your both calm you will understand yourselfs better. ;)
always remember to always have faith and trust in your partiner. and always be truthful.
Read ';The Five Love Languages'; by Dr. Gary Chapman.
It's a must-read for all couples. And it's short, inexpensive, very helpful and has easy to follow suggestions on making sure you and your spouse know what to do to make the other feel really loved and appreciate.
I strongly recommend that you google the book title and get started--perhaps with the sample online quiz.Advice for a newlywed?
Congrats! for your marriage. My advice is keep exploring each other and this should never end.
secondly, highlight the positive points in your partner and suppress the negative ones as being a human every person has a set of both.
Lastly, it takes two to fight. Douse fire with water and don't the two of you start firing together. Second one can wait for later on.
I know, I went farther than what you askes but the other two points will help in exploring and getting explored a continuous process.
Best of luck for your newly wed life ahead.
Honestly, in about 5 months your going to hit a rough patch. You will bicker over nothing. Why, because the honeymoon is over. Seriously. Prior to the wedding you were excited, you were happy, you had all these happy emotions going thru you and then yoru wedding day, biggest day of your life! After that..... nothing. In about 5 months things will settle and you'll get frustrated. happens to almost everyone.
They say the first year of marriage is the hardest. So try not to make things perfect, but make things fun and happy. If you try to hard, you will disappoint yourself.
Having lived together for so long makes it hard to think of such things you want. That is unless you really didn't try to do things like little things to surprise each other along the way. The secret is usually tied to keeping things fresh, doing new things together, doing things for each other, etc. Exploring new things you both may like may be the biggest possibility.
I think you are on the right track already. Just as long as you are BOTH making a conscious effort to keep the romance alive you will. It's the couples who don't make this stuff a priority that it fades.
Always be trying new things [[like traveling]] together. Experiencing new things will subconsciously trigger those feelings you had when things were new and exciting between the two of you.
Thats real simple, dont make him have to ask for it, offer it at the most unusual times and let him do the things you have said no to in the past. You will surprise him and keep his interest on a constant. Men hate routine when it comes to the bedroom and it doesnt take much to make us happy. Dress sexy just do you make up and proposition him without words if you get my drift and let him know your totally open to him doing the same to you and that you really love it as well. Rather simple dont ya think?
Well i have been married for 4 years in 4 months. I have kept the romance as of making a date night every week. Like once a month we do it extra special like take my daughter to someone and its just me and him, but the other days have date night we do something as a family. I love my husband and he knows that i dearly do for taking care of him. I cook his breakfast pack his lunch for the day and when i come home from work i make his Dinner, I then attend my baby girl and him while i clean up the house. I am curently 4 1/2 months pregnant and work from 7:30-4:30. I do quit a bit but he sees that i take good care of him and he thanks me and makes sure i know that everyday!! Good luck on your marriage. Allways talk things out when your both calm you will understand yourselfs better. ;)
always remember to always have faith and trust in your partiner. and always be truthful.
Any advice for a newlywed couple?
Put a penny in a jar for each time you have sex the first year. Take a penny out for every time you have sex after that. See how many years it takes to get all the pennies out.Any advice for a newlywed couple?
Always communicate with each other, give and take in everything you do, trust and respect each other, do small little things to keep the flame and romance going. Enjoy your life together!Any advice for a newlywed couple?
Realize it is not always going to be easy and pleasant. Arguments and fights WILL happen. Just love and support each other through everything and the bad spots will not be as bad. Also, advice my mom gave me: ';Never go to bed mad at each other.';
Take the good with the bad.
Always be true and honest about your feelings.
Never cheat.
Communicate and compromise.
Stay in it for the long haul... Good or bad. If you had any doubts after, you shouldn't have married. So, now that you're both in it up to your necks, well... read the above again.
The only bad marriage is the one without love. Also, should you have children, keep in mind that the greatest gift you can possibly give your child is your love for one another.
love each other and never go to bed angry
pray and forgive
youll argue. you need to get past it
love each other through thick %26amp; thin %26amp; always %26amp; forever..
Take it is easy and nothing difficult, Learn how to appreciate each other. tolerance, good communication and respect one another.
never go to bed mad at each other - i know you may want to after many fights, but its the worst thing you can do. suck up your pride, and even if you dont feel particular apologetic, at least tell him that you are sorry for fighting, and that you understand where he is coming from. if you go to be angry, the resenment will only build - people may say it will give you time to cool down, but that never happens. go to bed holding each other - it'll make your marriage last a lifetime.
Intimacy
The purpose of intimate relationships is to mid wife one another to perfection. The point of love is to reveal to us the light inside. If we are unconscious about these issues, if we fail to live up to the sacred challenges of loving another, then we will experiences disastrous relationships, and the disasters will motivate us to grow. If we are conscious and careful, then we will experience the processes of growth through the joys of love instead of pain. Over every relationship, shoving us into the next stage of our development is an angel; it is we who choose to be cracked upon by light or cracked upon by despair. We have a choice whether or not to love, but we have no choice whether or not to grow. Our intimate love is our partner on a holy adventure. With this person, we are given the chance to move into the center of things. In the spiritual space of an intimate connection, we have the power to heal and be healed. In order to be healed, we must reveal our wounds. So the person with whom we share the deepest love is often the one with whom we share the deepest pain. For when we hold a person deeply in our hearts, we hold their darkness as well as their light. We must accept both faces. The ability to accept our partner鈥檚 darkness and our willingness to reveal our own make us vulnerable to wounding. These however, are sacred wounds; they are prelude to sacred healing. Intimacy does not mean both people are perfect. Honoring our connection to another person is a way of honoring God. A relationship is more of an assignment than a choice. A powerful connection between two people is a potent psychic factor that exists regardless of either person鈥檚 opinion about the relationship. We can walk away from the assignment, but we cannot walk away from the lessons it presents. Sweeping challenges under the rug doesn鈥檛 get rid of problems, failure to complete in one are will always be reflected elsewhere. We stay with a relationship until a lesson is learned or we simply learn it another way. If honest communication between two people isn鈥檛 extended to the point of resolution and peace, the energy will attach itself to the psyche of both people and appear again as wounding in another relationship. Intimacy is where we are willing to move so deeply into love that the demons do not deter us from our conviction to make it through to the light. How tragic it is, that we often turn our face from each other when the work of healing has just begun. When done poorly, intimacy can lead to great pain. When done well, it strikes the devil in the center of the forehead.
Always communicate with each other, give and take in everything you do, trust and respect each other, do small little things to keep the flame and romance going. Enjoy your life together!Any advice for a newlywed couple?
Realize it is not always going to be easy and pleasant. Arguments and fights WILL happen. Just love and support each other through everything and the bad spots will not be as bad. Also, advice my mom gave me: ';Never go to bed mad at each other.';
Take the good with the bad.
Always be true and honest about your feelings.
Never cheat.
Communicate and compromise.
Stay in it for the long haul... Good or bad. If you had any doubts after, you shouldn't have married. So, now that you're both in it up to your necks, well... read the above again.
The only bad marriage is the one without love. Also, should you have children, keep in mind that the greatest gift you can possibly give your child is your love for one another.
love each other and never go to bed angry
pray and forgive
youll argue. you need to get past it
love each other through thick %26amp; thin %26amp; always %26amp; forever..
Take it is easy and nothing difficult, Learn how to appreciate each other. tolerance, good communication and respect one another.
never go to bed mad at each other - i know you may want to after many fights, but its the worst thing you can do. suck up your pride, and even if you dont feel particular apologetic, at least tell him that you are sorry for fighting, and that you understand where he is coming from. if you go to be angry, the resenment will only build - people may say it will give you time to cool down, but that never happens. go to bed holding each other - it'll make your marriage last a lifetime.
Intimacy
The purpose of intimate relationships is to mid wife one another to perfection. The point of love is to reveal to us the light inside. If we are unconscious about these issues, if we fail to live up to the sacred challenges of loving another, then we will experiences disastrous relationships, and the disasters will motivate us to grow. If we are conscious and careful, then we will experience the processes of growth through the joys of love instead of pain. Over every relationship, shoving us into the next stage of our development is an angel; it is we who choose to be cracked upon by light or cracked upon by despair. We have a choice whether or not to love, but we have no choice whether or not to grow. Our intimate love is our partner on a holy adventure. With this person, we are given the chance to move into the center of things. In the spiritual space of an intimate connection, we have the power to heal and be healed. In order to be healed, we must reveal our wounds. So the person with whom we share the deepest love is often the one with whom we share the deepest pain. For when we hold a person deeply in our hearts, we hold their darkness as well as their light. We must accept both faces. The ability to accept our partner鈥檚 darkness and our willingness to reveal our own make us vulnerable to wounding. These however, are sacred wounds; they are prelude to sacred healing. Intimacy does not mean both people are perfect. Honoring our connection to another person is a way of honoring God. A relationship is more of an assignment than a choice. A powerful connection between two people is a potent psychic factor that exists regardless of either person鈥檚 opinion about the relationship. We can walk away from the assignment, but we cannot walk away from the lessons it presents. Sweeping challenges under the rug doesn鈥檛 get rid of problems, failure to complete in one are will always be reflected elsewhere. We stay with a relationship until a lesson is learned or we simply learn it another way. If honest communication between two people isn鈥檛 extended to the point of resolution and peace, the energy will attach itself to the psyche of both people and appear again as wounding in another relationship. Intimacy is where we are willing to move so deeply into love that the demons do not deter us from our conviction to make it through to the light. How tragic it is, that we often turn our face from each other when the work of healing has just begun. When done poorly, intimacy can lead to great pain. When done well, it strikes the devil in the center of the forehead.
Any advice for a newlywed Army Wife??
I am a newlywed with a husband that just re-enlisted in the army as an E-4. We haven't even been married a month yet and he is already at his post (which is Fort Riley, Kansas) and I will follow next week. He has already been told he will most likely be deployed around Christmas/or the first part of next year at the latest. I would really like be a good ';Army Wife'; and make our first year of marriage great before he gets deployed. Any advice on how I could do that, and what could I do after he gets deployed to let him know I am thinking about him? We both agree I will go back to our home state once he gets deployed. Does anyone know anything about Fort Riley..what is there do/what is it like? Any advice from anyone currently in the Military, Prior Service, or Military Wives would be greatly appreciated!!Any advice for a newlywed Army Wife??
i'm a military wife, USMC, so i can't really tell you about that base or specific organizations to help the transition.
however, your moving expenses can most likely be re-imbursed, make him look into it.
take care of the finances, this way nothing will change when he goes on deployment. i do all the checking and bill paying. it's easier that way. i worked out all our expenses so they fall either on the 1st or 15th. this way as soon as he gets paid the bills get paid. then, my paycheck is used for groceries and other ';extras';.
remember that in military areas lots of places give mil discounts. we get one on our cable, phone and internet bundle package.
make sure before he deploys that you have set up medical directives (living wills) and POWER OF ATTORNEY. you will most likely find yourself in a pickle if you don't have power of attorney while he's deployed. example: my husband is deployed. i have power of attorney to file our taxes. if i didn't have it then he'd have to be there to file or do an extenstion=pain in the butt.
socially....get involved. often times there are spouse groups or volunteer groups that you can get involved in on base. DO IT! you can learn alot from other army wives. also, go into town and make friends. get a job somewhere, even part time to make some friends. have him invite friends and their spouses over for dinner of just a house warming party.
my point....be outgoing. don't let yourself get lonely!
i just moved here a year ago and the year has flown. i am working, making friends, getting hobbies etc. my husband is about to deploy in a month and we're dreading it, but life goes on. WE have made a life here and it's good.
i hope that helps! also, don't forget to shop at the exchange and the commissary. often times they have home lay-away for furniture, washer/dryer, etc. tax free too! plus, the commissary usually has good prices and i like their meats better than places like wal-mart.
take care. hope i helped!
p.s. ';oldsalt'; has a point about making your base your home. i will be staying here when my husband deploys. so will the other wives i'm friends with. the only one that probably won't is our friend who is just dating her marine. her dad is a general in DC and she will most likely go home since she doesn't have much keeping her here (i.e. kids, job etc.)
i do know of some wives who go to their parents' home if they are having a baby and hubby is gone. mom and dad can help with that transition so they aren't alone. then, they move home 2 oor 3 weeks before hubby gets back.
just remember that the military does become like your family. you will find yourself friends with people you never thought you'd be friends with. you help babysit someone's kids free of charge when they're in a pinch and they return the favor with loaning you maternity clothes when you're pregnant (my own example).
basically, it's a change, but if you embrace it and go with it, you'll be fine!Any advice for a newlywed Army Wife??
go to
forum.cinchouse.com/eve
If they don't have the topic you want, just make one
here's the Army wives posts
http://forum.cinchouse.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Don't cheat on your husband when he goes on deployment! So many times I have seen spouses do this when their spouse is deployed.
The life of military wife is a difficult one, and you should be prepared for that first off...
Enjoy his company as much as you can while he is still here stateside...After he's gone, talk on the phone whenever you both can, write letters, or if he has email, communicate that way. That's the most important thing...Maintain communication.
You're going to be his ';rock'; or his ';strength'; while he's overseas, so support him as much as you can.
Just remember your committment that you made to him when you both married, and stick to it, thick %26amp; thin, for better or worse...and so on...
As far as Fort Riley is concerned: There should be all kinds of information available on the Internet regarding Fort Riley. I would suggest searching for it, if you haven't already.
I hope that helps.
there's a lot of really good advice already so i'll make this quick.
there is a book called ';married to the military'; that was very helpful and gave me a lot of info on what it's like being a military wife, hints, tidbits, things to do, things to look out for.
very good book for a new military wife-highly recommend
Although having your family close can be helpful, keep in mind by staying at Fort Riley, you will be better connected and staying in the loop with everything going on. The FRG can be your best resource. So if you do go home, make sure they can contact you. Also, make sure the Rear D has all of your info. just incase something happens. Make a plan to mail care packages 1-2 times a month. Lots of letters. My husband and I wrote every day the first deployment of our marriage. Once he gets to where he wil be located then they may have internet, you can IM him any time he is off duty. Make sure he has numbers for everybody in your family, just incase he can't reach you as well.
But mostly stay as involved in the troop as possible. They will be planning all of the events, returning home parties, family get togethers etc...If you have any other questions feel free to email me.
My condolences for being stuck in Kansas...and congratulations for being a newlywed.
dont whine about his working long hours or duty days. or when hes gone doing field work which he will. i am a navy wife and he is currently deployed. once he does leave write letters emails send care packages
Some advise from a retired Army Sergeant Major.
I went through four wives in 30 years of Military service. The military is an unkind place for married people.
Some things to ponder....
While you are married to a military man, the Army will always dictate what he does and where he does it. He can be sent away to missions for training while stationed in the US, and those can be extensive. He will be required to stay on base at times despite your needs for companionship. Many important events like birthdays and anniversaries will be spent apart. If you have children, they will often be conceived when dad is at home, and born while he is away. Things like their first words and steps will be missed.
In a nut shell, life will not be the happy one envisioned by most with a nice little house with a picket fence and flowers. You will have to remain strong to endure the military, and the moves to new duty stations and the long overseas deployments will have to be tolerated for your marriage to succeed.
The rewards in the end can be substantial. Now that I am retired with 75% of my pay, and have used by benefits to get a graduate degree, My current wife and I live well, are assisted with medical and commissary privileges, space available travel, and a wealth of international experiences. Would we do it all over again, I say yes, my wife says, hell no!
Well, this is a very broad subject - but the best piece of advice I could give to any military wife would be to be patient, supportive, educated, and prepared.
What I mean by patient and supportive should be pretty much a given - you'll need a lot of patience to deal with some of the military stuff that might appear (or is) stupid and nonsensical, such as the hierachy in the Family Support / Readiness Group where some wives think they wear their husband's rank. Some of the military folks can be a pain to deal with as well - so lots of patience is needed, don't loose your temper with those people, breathe deeply and take things one step at a time.
What I mean by educated is just that - try to learn as much about how things work in the military as you can. Understand the rank structure, and how things are handled - whom to go to when you have a problem, whom to contact, etc. Also try to learn as much about your husband's job as you can, and get to know people in his unit as well as their family members. It takes a lot of being proactive, but it helps build a better support system when you need it. And knowing where to go and whom to call makes a big difference while your husband is deployed as well, so you can take care of things at home and don't have to spend each phone call with him detailing the problems you have.
And lastly, be prepared. Military life is not for everyone and there are lots of things going on, between deployments, PCS moves, and all that good stuff. So it's important to be ready for whatever might happen - always have your paperwork in order (bank accounts, life insurance, important documents), always plan ahead for things that might happen and need to be done, start saving money (there's going to be a point where you will need savings - whether it's for care packages to his units or an unexpected car repair), and make sure things are taken care of.
As far as the deployment goes - the first thing you want to bear in mind is that your husband does not need any additional stress. So while you might want to vent about what such-and-such said, or how you had an unexpected bill or something, don't bug him with that stuff while he's deployed unless it's an absolute emergency. Reason being, there's nothing he can do about it from Iraq, and it'll just add unnecessary worry to his day.
To show him you're thinking of him, send him mail often - letters, care packages, cards, emails, etc. Let him know how things are going, what you've been up to, how everyone's doing. Send lots of photos, so while he's missing out on a lot of things, he won't feel completely left out and isolated from his family.
why would you go home? I am a military spouse and home is wherever we are sent. I dont go back to mommy and daddy during deployments. As far as advice about being a military spouse? Make sure you behave in a mature way, pay your bills, help out in the unit, do some volunteering on post, be patient and remember that the army dictates when and where your husband will be.
I am an Army wife-have been almost 3 years. My husband is currently in Iraq, has been for about 7 months. I can tell you that this is a tough job(yes, a job!) Advice I would give-When he is in the field, or out late training, be very understanding. I've seen a lot of wifes freak out, *****, complain and even cheat because their hub is gone alot. He will probably be tired often and want to relax, so be caring. After he deploys....Send him a care package once a month- Even if he says he doesnt need anything. I send slippers, Dr. scholls gels for his shoes(really shows you care)homebaked cookies, protein bars for when he cant go to chow. Lovey mushy letters in each package!socks(my hsband says there are no quality socks out there. Little things like that. If you call the post office 800 number, ask them for the #4 military care package, they send you free priority flat rate shipping boxes, tape, customs forms, and address stickers for free! as many times as you want. Make sure every holiday you send him a themed box of stuff....I made my husband a scarp book of our kids and us for him to take with him. Depending on what camp he goes to in Iraq, he may not be able to call often, and try not to take it personally, tell yourself you know how busy he is. Try not to talk about his work situation when you do get to talk to him, also.Whatever you do remember how much you love this man-You may have to remind yourself often and good luck.If you ever wanna talk im cherokee_pimpstress on ym and its my yahoo email.
Dont end up on that wall of shame
Being married is hard enough with out adding the military to it lol. All you can really do is support him in what he does, you have to remember your not just married to him you are now married to the army too lol. I haven't been to fort Riley I have only been to ft Benning, ft Gordan, and ft Bragg and from what I've noticed there are mainly just malls and strip clubs by the bases because most of the army is single soldiers. Don't get on him about being late coming home because they cant help it some time they have to stay at work for 24 hours straight which sucks. When hes deployed there wont be much you can do if he can receive mail write him every day if he can get on the puter E-mail him and make sure you have a cell phone for when he does get to call home. Care packages are always good baby wipes ,magazines,smokes, candy, stuff that he wont be able to get from the locals is always good. other then that just ask him what he would want you to send him everyone is different. any other questions let me know I've been married to the military for 5 years now lol
Why would you 'go home'. Isn't your home where your husband's unit is? You will have more in common with the women there than at home. You will be like a single woman around your old friends. They will not be interested in ';my husband in the Army'; stories. Best thing to do is stay on/near the base and get involved with the other Army wives. The military 'takes care of its own,' is not an idle phrase. You will have the fellowship, support and friendship of those ladies. You will have something in common with THEM that you won't have with your old friends 'back home.' Start now thinking that where your husband is stationed is HOME.
Old girlfriend of mine had a husband who was in the reserves. Every year when he went on his 2 week time, she'd take her 2 kids and move to mom/dad's. That was THREE MILES AWAY. Finally dad asked, IF YOU AND DOUG LIVED IN CALIFORNIA INSTEAD OF DELAWARE, WOULD YOU COME HOME EVERY YEAR? She of course said she wouldn't. That was the last (of 4 years) she went to mm/dad's for those 2 weeks.
Have your home ready for when your hero comes HOME. Not your mommy/daddy's home. YOURS.
I was deployed for 13 months (Antarctica), 12 months (Middle East Flag Ship), 6 months (Indian Ocean), 6 months (Mediterranean) and every time I came back I went to MY home. Not my in-laws or my folks'.
(USN/retired)
I know exactly where you are coming from on this. I dont know about Fort Riley, but I can help you for after he gets deployed. There is alot that you can do, and alot of things that can help you. You might just have to email me.
There is a book out, called the Survival Guide for Military Wives, and Girlfriends. It's pink camoflauge. This will be EXTREMELY helpful to you. It has been my bible since my husband deployed.
As far as when he deployes, try emailing him every night, so he knows how much you love him and miss him. Plus this also makes him feel like he's still a part of what's going on at home. Some say not to talk about any of the things that go wrong at home, but I found that with my husband, he wanted to know, and got mad when I tried to protect him from it.
Another way is to send him care package boxes. Send about 1 a week, or more. Put pictures, cards, letters, and all his favorite snacks in it.
I have never missed sending my husband an email every night since he first got on the plane over a year ago. I've saved each one, printed it off, and put it in a binder for him to keep.
As far as being a good wife before he deploys, just do everything that he loves about you. Take lots of pictures together, and truly enjoy every moment of every day that you spend together.
Best of luck to you,
I think the most important thing is to learn as much about the Army as you can. It's really a whole new world, and there will be so much you don't understand. Ask your husband questions, and try to understand as much about how things work as possible. In my experience, the wives who know what's going on fare much better than the ones who take a ';hands off'; approach. It may be his job, but it will completely envelope your life, so you might as well enjoy it. The other thing I would do to be a ';good'; Army wife is be really understanding about the pressure his job puts on him. When we first got married, I was a pain in the butt about how he always had to work late or on weekends or go away to the field. It took me a while to realize how ignorant I was being and how much unnecessary stress I was causing him. We are much happier now that I am not so crazy about his hours. It's hard to get used to, but you'll both be happier if you do. Understand that his time is not his own, especially as an E-4, and that other people tell him when to come and go. He wants to be home with you, but someone higher ranking than him has told him he can't. I just learned how to keep dinner warm and entertain myself in the evenings when he's not there. Besides, it's good practice for when he's deployed.
Also, I would really think long and hard about whether or not to move ';home'; during his deployment. I've done deployments both ways, and I found that being near other military families makes it a lot easier. At home, I felt like a freak show. There were no other Army wives nearby and I got these crazy looks whenever people found out. Plus the questions - nosy, ignorant, stupid questions from EVERYONE. Don't you miss him? (Uh, yeah.) What is it like when he's gone? (How do you even begin to describe what it's like to have your husband half a world away getting shot at?) What would you do if something happened to him? (Collect big on his life insurance - that answer always shuts them up!) My husband travels for business, I know what you're going through. (No, you don't, now leave me alone.) Plus, if your husband is planning on making a career out of the Army, you might as well get used to living alone, far from family now. What about when you have kids in school? You can't really move home then. It's easier to get used to is sooner rather than later. It's ultimately your decision, but I would definitely wait until closer to his deployment to decide.
I can't really help you on Ft Riley because we've never been there. From what I understand, it's not too high on the list of great duty stations, but there are definitely worse places to be. We lived in Ft Polk, LA - what many people refer to as ';the armpit of the Army.'; It was pretty bad, but every duty station is what you make of it. Go into it with a positive attitude and look for the good in it, and you'll be a lot happier.
Whens hes gone on tour, and you want some, put a box of tide in your kitchen window.
Look out your back window now, and check out your neighbors windows.
See all the boxes of tide?
notice that those are the places where hubby is on tour?
GET SOME
i'm a military wife, USMC, so i can't really tell you about that base or specific organizations to help the transition.
however, your moving expenses can most likely be re-imbursed, make him look into it.
take care of the finances, this way nothing will change when he goes on deployment. i do all the checking and bill paying. it's easier that way. i worked out all our expenses so they fall either on the 1st or 15th. this way as soon as he gets paid the bills get paid. then, my paycheck is used for groceries and other ';extras';.
remember that in military areas lots of places give mil discounts. we get one on our cable, phone and internet bundle package.
make sure before he deploys that you have set up medical directives (living wills) and POWER OF ATTORNEY. you will most likely find yourself in a pickle if you don't have power of attorney while he's deployed. example: my husband is deployed. i have power of attorney to file our taxes. if i didn't have it then he'd have to be there to file or do an extenstion=pain in the butt.
socially....get involved. often times there are spouse groups or volunteer groups that you can get involved in on base. DO IT! you can learn alot from other army wives. also, go into town and make friends. get a job somewhere, even part time to make some friends. have him invite friends and their spouses over for dinner of just a house warming party.
my point....be outgoing. don't let yourself get lonely!
i just moved here a year ago and the year has flown. i am working, making friends, getting hobbies etc. my husband is about to deploy in a month and we're dreading it, but life goes on. WE have made a life here and it's good.
i hope that helps! also, don't forget to shop at the exchange and the commissary. often times they have home lay-away for furniture, washer/dryer, etc. tax free too! plus, the commissary usually has good prices and i like their meats better than places like wal-mart.
take care. hope i helped!
p.s. ';oldsalt'; has a point about making your base your home. i will be staying here when my husband deploys. so will the other wives i'm friends with. the only one that probably won't is our friend who is just dating her marine. her dad is a general in DC and she will most likely go home since she doesn't have much keeping her here (i.e. kids, job etc.)
i do know of some wives who go to their parents' home if they are having a baby and hubby is gone. mom and dad can help with that transition so they aren't alone. then, they move home 2 oor 3 weeks before hubby gets back.
just remember that the military does become like your family. you will find yourself friends with people you never thought you'd be friends with. you help babysit someone's kids free of charge when they're in a pinch and they return the favor with loaning you maternity clothes when you're pregnant (my own example).
basically, it's a change, but if you embrace it and go with it, you'll be fine!Any advice for a newlywed Army Wife??
go to
forum.cinchouse.com/eve
If they don't have the topic you want, just make one
here's the Army wives posts
http://forum.cinchouse.com/eve/forums/a/鈥?/a>
Don't cheat on your husband when he goes on deployment! So many times I have seen spouses do this when their spouse is deployed.
The life of military wife is a difficult one, and you should be prepared for that first off...
Enjoy his company as much as you can while he is still here stateside...After he's gone, talk on the phone whenever you both can, write letters, or if he has email, communicate that way. That's the most important thing...Maintain communication.
You're going to be his ';rock'; or his ';strength'; while he's overseas, so support him as much as you can.
Just remember your committment that you made to him when you both married, and stick to it, thick %26amp; thin, for better or worse...and so on...
As far as Fort Riley is concerned: There should be all kinds of information available on the Internet regarding Fort Riley. I would suggest searching for it, if you haven't already.
I hope that helps.
there's a lot of really good advice already so i'll make this quick.
there is a book called ';married to the military'; that was very helpful and gave me a lot of info on what it's like being a military wife, hints, tidbits, things to do, things to look out for.
very good book for a new military wife-highly recommend
Although having your family close can be helpful, keep in mind by staying at Fort Riley, you will be better connected and staying in the loop with everything going on. The FRG can be your best resource. So if you do go home, make sure they can contact you. Also, make sure the Rear D has all of your info. just incase something happens. Make a plan to mail care packages 1-2 times a month. Lots of letters. My husband and I wrote every day the first deployment of our marriage. Once he gets to where he wil be located then they may have internet, you can IM him any time he is off duty. Make sure he has numbers for everybody in your family, just incase he can't reach you as well.
But mostly stay as involved in the troop as possible. They will be planning all of the events, returning home parties, family get togethers etc...If you have any other questions feel free to email me.
My condolences for being stuck in Kansas...and congratulations for being a newlywed.
dont whine about his working long hours or duty days. or when hes gone doing field work which he will. i am a navy wife and he is currently deployed. once he does leave write letters emails send care packages
Some advise from a retired Army Sergeant Major.
I went through four wives in 30 years of Military service. The military is an unkind place for married people.
Some things to ponder....
While you are married to a military man, the Army will always dictate what he does and where he does it. He can be sent away to missions for training while stationed in the US, and those can be extensive. He will be required to stay on base at times despite your needs for companionship. Many important events like birthdays and anniversaries will be spent apart. If you have children, they will often be conceived when dad is at home, and born while he is away. Things like their first words and steps will be missed.
In a nut shell, life will not be the happy one envisioned by most with a nice little house with a picket fence and flowers. You will have to remain strong to endure the military, and the moves to new duty stations and the long overseas deployments will have to be tolerated for your marriage to succeed.
The rewards in the end can be substantial. Now that I am retired with 75% of my pay, and have used by benefits to get a graduate degree, My current wife and I live well, are assisted with medical and commissary privileges, space available travel, and a wealth of international experiences. Would we do it all over again, I say yes, my wife says, hell no!
Well, this is a very broad subject - but the best piece of advice I could give to any military wife would be to be patient, supportive, educated, and prepared.
What I mean by patient and supportive should be pretty much a given - you'll need a lot of patience to deal with some of the military stuff that might appear (or is) stupid and nonsensical, such as the hierachy in the Family Support / Readiness Group where some wives think they wear their husband's rank. Some of the military folks can be a pain to deal with as well - so lots of patience is needed, don't loose your temper with those people, breathe deeply and take things one step at a time.
What I mean by educated is just that - try to learn as much about how things work in the military as you can. Understand the rank structure, and how things are handled - whom to go to when you have a problem, whom to contact, etc. Also try to learn as much about your husband's job as you can, and get to know people in his unit as well as their family members. It takes a lot of being proactive, but it helps build a better support system when you need it. And knowing where to go and whom to call makes a big difference while your husband is deployed as well, so you can take care of things at home and don't have to spend each phone call with him detailing the problems you have.
And lastly, be prepared. Military life is not for everyone and there are lots of things going on, between deployments, PCS moves, and all that good stuff. So it's important to be ready for whatever might happen - always have your paperwork in order (bank accounts, life insurance, important documents), always plan ahead for things that might happen and need to be done, start saving money (there's going to be a point where you will need savings - whether it's for care packages to his units or an unexpected car repair), and make sure things are taken care of.
As far as the deployment goes - the first thing you want to bear in mind is that your husband does not need any additional stress. So while you might want to vent about what such-and-such said, or how you had an unexpected bill or something, don't bug him with that stuff while he's deployed unless it's an absolute emergency. Reason being, there's nothing he can do about it from Iraq, and it'll just add unnecessary worry to his day.
To show him you're thinking of him, send him mail often - letters, care packages, cards, emails, etc. Let him know how things are going, what you've been up to, how everyone's doing. Send lots of photos, so while he's missing out on a lot of things, he won't feel completely left out and isolated from his family.
why would you go home? I am a military spouse and home is wherever we are sent. I dont go back to mommy and daddy during deployments. As far as advice about being a military spouse? Make sure you behave in a mature way, pay your bills, help out in the unit, do some volunteering on post, be patient and remember that the army dictates when and where your husband will be.
I am an Army wife-have been almost 3 years. My husband is currently in Iraq, has been for about 7 months. I can tell you that this is a tough job(yes, a job!) Advice I would give-When he is in the field, or out late training, be very understanding. I've seen a lot of wifes freak out, *****, complain and even cheat because their hub is gone alot. He will probably be tired often and want to relax, so be caring. After he deploys....Send him a care package once a month- Even if he says he doesnt need anything. I send slippers, Dr. scholls gels for his shoes(really shows you care)homebaked cookies, protein bars for when he cant go to chow. Lovey mushy letters in each package!socks(my hsband says there are no quality socks out there. Little things like that. If you call the post office 800 number, ask them for the #4 military care package, they send you free priority flat rate shipping boxes, tape, customs forms, and address stickers for free! as many times as you want. Make sure every holiday you send him a themed box of stuff....I made my husband a scarp book of our kids and us for him to take with him. Depending on what camp he goes to in Iraq, he may not be able to call often, and try not to take it personally, tell yourself you know how busy he is. Try not to talk about his work situation when you do get to talk to him, also.Whatever you do remember how much you love this man-You may have to remind yourself often and good luck.If you ever wanna talk im cherokee_pimpstress on ym and its my yahoo email.
Dont end up on that wall of shame
Being married is hard enough with out adding the military to it lol. All you can really do is support him in what he does, you have to remember your not just married to him you are now married to the army too lol. I haven't been to fort Riley I have only been to ft Benning, ft Gordan, and ft Bragg and from what I've noticed there are mainly just malls and strip clubs by the bases because most of the army is single soldiers. Don't get on him about being late coming home because they cant help it some time they have to stay at work for 24 hours straight which sucks. When hes deployed there wont be much you can do if he can receive mail write him every day if he can get on the puter E-mail him and make sure you have a cell phone for when he does get to call home. Care packages are always good baby wipes ,magazines,smokes, candy, stuff that he wont be able to get from the locals is always good. other then that just ask him what he would want you to send him everyone is different. any other questions let me know I've been married to the military for 5 years now lol
Why would you 'go home'. Isn't your home where your husband's unit is? You will have more in common with the women there than at home. You will be like a single woman around your old friends. They will not be interested in ';my husband in the Army'; stories. Best thing to do is stay on/near the base and get involved with the other Army wives. The military 'takes care of its own,' is not an idle phrase. You will have the fellowship, support and friendship of those ladies. You will have something in common with THEM that you won't have with your old friends 'back home.' Start now thinking that where your husband is stationed is HOME.
Old girlfriend of mine had a husband who was in the reserves. Every year when he went on his 2 week time, she'd take her 2 kids and move to mom/dad's. That was THREE MILES AWAY. Finally dad asked, IF YOU AND DOUG LIVED IN CALIFORNIA INSTEAD OF DELAWARE, WOULD YOU COME HOME EVERY YEAR? She of course said she wouldn't. That was the last (of 4 years) she went to mm/dad's for those 2 weeks.
Have your home ready for when your hero comes HOME. Not your mommy/daddy's home. YOURS.
I was deployed for 13 months (Antarctica), 12 months (Middle East Flag Ship), 6 months (Indian Ocean), 6 months (Mediterranean) and every time I came back I went to MY home. Not my in-laws or my folks'.
(USN/retired)
I know exactly where you are coming from on this. I dont know about Fort Riley, but I can help you for after he gets deployed. There is alot that you can do, and alot of things that can help you. You might just have to email me.
There is a book out, called the Survival Guide for Military Wives, and Girlfriends. It's pink camoflauge. This will be EXTREMELY helpful to you. It has been my bible since my husband deployed.
As far as when he deployes, try emailing him every night, so he knows how much you love him and miss him. Plus this also makes him feel like he's still a part of what's going on at home. Some say not to talk about any of the things that go wrong at home, but I found that with my husband, he wanted to know, and got mad when I tried to protect him from it.
Another way is to send him care package boxes. Send about 1 a week, or more. Put pictures, cards, letters, and all his favorite snacks in it.
I have never missed sending my husband an email every night since he first got on the plane over a year ago. I've saved each one, printed it off, and put it in a binder for him to keep.
As far as being a good wife before he deploys, just do everything that he loves about you. Take lots of pictures together, and truly enjoy every moment of every day that you spend together.
Best of luck to you,
I think the most important thing is to learn as much about the Army as you can. It's really a whole new world, and there will be so much you don't understand. Ask your husband questions, and try to understand as much about how things work as possible. In my experience, the wives who know what's going on fare much better than the ones who take a ';hands off'; approach. It may be his job, but it will completely envelope your life, so you might as well enjoy it. The other thing I would do to be a ';good'; Army wife is be really understanding about the pressure his job puts on him. When we first got married, I was a pain in the butt about how he always had to work late or on weekends or go away to the field. It took me a while to realize how ignorant I was being and how much unnecessary stress I was causing him. We are much happier now that I am not so crazy about his hours. It's hard to get used to, but you'll both be happier if you do. Understand that his time is not his own, especially as an E-4, and that other people tell him when to come and go. He wants to be home with you, but someone higher ranking than him has told him he can't. I just learned how to keep dinner warm and entertain myself in the evenings when he's not there. Besides, it's good practice for when he's deployed.
Also, I would really think long and hard about whether or not to move ';home'; during his deployment. I've done deployments both ways, and I found that being near other military families makes it a lot easier. At home, I felt like a freak show. There were no other Army wives nearby and I got these crazy looks whenever people found out. Plus the questions - nosy, ignorant, stupid questions from EVERYONE. Don't you miss him? (Uh, yeah.) What is it like when he's gone? (How do you even begin to describe what it's like to have your husband half a world away getting shot at?) What would you do if something happened to him? (Collect big on his life insurance - that answer always shuts them up!) My husband travels for business, I know what you're going through. (No, you don't, now leave me alone.) Plus, if your husband is planning on making a career out of the Army, you might as well get used to living alone, far from family now. What about when you have kids in school? You can't really move home then. It's easier to get used to is sooner rather than later. It's ultimately your decision, but I would definitely wait until closer to his deployment to decide.
I can't really help you on Ft Riley because we've never been there. From what I understand, it's not too high on the list of great duty stations, but there are definitely worse places to be. We lived in Ft Polk, LA - what many people refer to as ';the armpit of the Army.'; It was pretty bad, but every duty station is what you make of it. Go into it with a positive attitude and look for the good in it, and you'll be a lot happier.
Whens hes gone on tour, and you want some, put a box of tide in your kitchen window.
Look out your back window now, and check out your neighbors windows.
See all the boxes of tide?
notice that those are the places where hubby is on tour?
GET SOME
Advice for newlyweds?
Just recently married and just wanted some advice for a sucessful marriage:)I know in the beginning it's rough.Advice for newlyweds?
First and foremost, yes, the first year is hard, but the second year is even tougher. (because you are now out of the honeymoon phase)
Second, the first year after having a baby is VERY hard.
But the absolute best thing I can tell you that will help you have a successful marriage is that things change. Say you are really having a tough time in the marriage and you are really unhappy. Don't quit. Wait.
There have been many studies that have shown that even people that have put their marital state at ';extremely unhappy'; but still stay married usually don't stay unhappy.
So when you think it's bad, give it enough time to get better. Don't bail out until the end. Of course, if he's beating you or something like that, you get out immediately, but I think you know that already.Advice for newlyweds?
I hate to say this, but luck has a lot to do with a successful marriage. But besides that, honesty, trust and respect are of utmost importance to a successful marriage.
People are always saying they love someone. It doesn't mean anything. It's what you do to the person you say you love. That's what matters and it's the only thing that counts. I wish you a long and happy marriage.
no advice for successful marriage-it is what u make it. basically it depends on how u handle the not-so good times. can u agree and stick together with each other. How u get along thru the good stuff really doesn't count cause it's the good times. some might say communication but I don't agree. U can communicate all u want but if u don't wanna hear what's coming out of your spouse's mouth then what's the point.
I have been married for 14 years. I got married when I was 18 and I am 32 . The first 6 years were so very hard. It does get better. You do start to grow together. Marriage is work. There are allot of people who cant handle it. It is not always roses. Its allot of compromise give and take mostly take and if your the wife really you will start to feel unappreciated and well just not loved. But when you start to feel that way that means you have done a GREAT JOB with your family. They will always surprise you especially hubby. Don't take him for granted and he the same . Always everyday say I LOVE YOU never go to bed angry. Lots and lots of SEX. That really is the glue, because its not just sex its being with your best friend lover and partner that connection is what makes it the best. Please Please don't take the easy way out like most couples do with getting a divorce because '; Its to hard I cant do this'; for that line I say'; WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING IN THE FIRST PLACE'; Good Luck to you both. Hope you have wonderful years with your BEST FRIEND!!!!!
Learn to communicate openly, and don't be afraid to compromise, or agree to disagree. Some things just can not be resolved, and each of you should have the right to maintain your own opinons on things that do not directly affect both of you, such as politics.
Also, you will want to be sure that you are both on track as to when you want to start planning for children, if at all.
Don't get caught up on the oneness of everything. You are both supposed to be able to maintain your own personalities and interests and also enjoy interest together. Do not let jealousy move in on you.
Always be kind an considerate of each other, and try to find things to do that will make the other realize how much you appreciate them. Never take ach other for granted.
Discuss all major financial decisions, and be respectful of the opinion of the other.
#1 and above all. Your spouse is now part of you, and you must always consider him or her above everyone else.
Never involve anyone else in your disputes nor take sides with someone else against your spouse. If you do not agree with your spouse, discuss it in private.
Never belittle your spouse, or embarrass your spouse.
By the way, there will always be peaks and valleys. Sometimes it will seem that the marriage is going really bad, but if you stick with it, improvement will come, and it will be great again. (I think that happens because sometimes we start to take each othe for granted, so we need a little jolt to make us realize how important our partner is to us, plus it is part of the growing and maturing process in the marriage). every hurdle you jump will bring you closer to each other.
Marriage shouldn't be rough in the beginning... sometimes finances are tough, but otherwise, you and your partner shouldn't be struggling as far as getting along and communicating and growing together.
If you are, maybe it's time to hit the couples counselor's couch.
I am a product of divorce and these are the things I learned AFTER my divorce!
DATE- take the time and never forget to date at least twice a month if you can afford to.
LISTEN to each other.
COMPROMISE with one another.
RESOLVE your issues together and never go to bed angry.
RESPECT each other
COMMUNICATE - is almost key in your marriage.
COMPLIMENT - an honest compliment once a day goes a long way...
APPRECIATE you, your spouse and your marriage.
GOOD LUCK :) Hope some of these help you!
it shouldnt be rough. your looking at it the wrong way all together. NEVER FOCUS ON THE BAD, U NEED TO FOCUS ON THE GOOD 24/7!!! yeah its hard sometimes but u 2 love each other and u have to remember that!!! im going on 8 months of marriage!! the first 1-2 years is the hardest because now that u are married its a whole new level of closeness!!! yall got married for a reason,just keep that in mind!!
Communicate as much as you can! If you see the relationship is having problems talk, or get counseling, always try never run unless you have actually made and effort , Marriage takes 2, And also Never go to bed mad! Good luck Best of Wishes
Never ever loose respect for each other.Never call each other hurt foul names,when you get in a argument ALWAYS make up before going to bed(makeup sex is great) and have great communication.
This a important one always act like lady but in the bed room be your husband fantasy
i dont know exactly what good advice to give you besides love eachother unconditionally. stick through it, no matter what! and congrats on getting married. i cant wait until i get married!
Honesty and communication.
As soon as you stop talking or start having secrets it makes everything worse.
communication and never go to bed mad, always no matter how mad you are at him/her tell them you love them when you leave, you never know if this will be the last time you see them
Communication and compromise.
Good Luck!!!
Communication, TRUST, comprimise. Think...if you love them forever, what will you do to make things right TOGETHER!
good communication and a good sex life.. you must be best of friends all the time
R-E-S-P-E-C-T sock it to me sock it to me sock it to me sock it to me
First and foremost, yes, the first year is hard, but the second year is even tougher. (because you are now out of the honeymoon phase)
Second, the first year after having a baby is VERY hard.
But the absolute best thing I can tell you that will help you have a successful marriage is that things change. Say you are really having a tough time in the marriage and you are really unhappy. Don't quit. Wait.
There have been many studies that have shown that even people that have put their marital state at ';extremely unhappy'; but still stay married usually don't stay unhappy.
So when you think it's bad, give it enough time to get better. Don't bail out until the end. Of course, if he's beating you or something like that, you get out immediately, but I think you know that already.Advice for newlyweds?
I hate to say this, but luck has a lot to do with a successful marriage. But besides that, honesty, trust and respect are of utmost importance to a successful marriage.
People are always saying they love someone. It doesn't mean anything. It's what you do to the person you say you love. That's what matters and it's the only thing that counts. I wish you a long and happy marriage.
no advice for successful marriage-it is what u make it. basically it depends on how u handle the not-so good times. can u agree and stick together with each other. How u get along thru the good stuff really doesn't count cause it's the good times. some might say communication but I don't agree. U can communicate all u want but if u don't wanna hear what's coming out of your spouse's mouth then what's the point.
I have been married for 14 years. I got married when I was 18 and I am 32 . The first 6 years were so very hard. It does get better. You do start to grow together. Marriage is work. There are allot of people who cant handle it. It is not always roses. Its allot of compromise give and take mostly take and if your the wife really you will start to feel unappreciated and well just not loved. But when you start to feel that way that means you have done a GREAT JOB with your family. They will always surprise you especially hubby. Don't take him for granted and he the same . Always everyday say I LOVE YOU never go to bed angry. Lots and lots of SEX. That really is the glue, because its not just sex its being with your best friend lover and partner that connection is what makes it the best. Please Please don't take the easy way out like most couples do with getting a divorce because '; Its to hard I cant do this'; for that line I say'; WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING IN THE FIRST PLACE'; Good Luck to you both. Hope you have wonderful years with your BEST FRIEND!!!!!
Learn to communicate openly, and don't be afraid to compromise, or agree to disagree. Some things just can not be resolved, and each of you should have the right to maintain your own opinons on things that do not directly affect both of you, such as politics.
Also, you will want to be sure that you are both on track as to when you want to start planning for children, if at all.
Don't get caught up on the oneness of everything. You are both supposed to be able to maintain your own personalities and interests and also enjoy interest together. Do not let jealousy move in on you.
Always be kind an considerate of each other, and try to find things to do that will make the other realize how much you appreciate them. Never take ach other for granted.
Discuss all major financial decisions, and be respectful of the opinion of the other.
#1 and above all. Your spouse is now part of you, and you must always consider him or her above everyone else.
Never involve anyone else in your disputes nor take sides with someone else against your spouse. If you do not agree with your spouse, discuss it in private.
Never belittle your spouse, or embarrass your spouse.
By the way, there will always be peaks and valleys. Sometimes it will seem that the marriage is going really bad, but if you stick with it, improvement will come, and it will be great again. (I think that happens because sometimes we start to take each othe for granted, so we need a little jolt to make us realize how important our partner is to us, plus it is part of the growing and maturing process in the marriage). every hurdle you jump will bring you closer to each other.
Marriage shouldn't be rough in the beginning... sometimes finances are tough, but otherwise, you and your partner shouldn't be struggling as far as getting along and communicating and growing together.
If you are, maybe it's time to hit the couples counselor's couch.
I am a product of divorce and these are the things I learned AFTER my divorce!
DATE- take the time and never forget to date at least twice a month if you can afford to.
LISTEN to each other.
COMPROMISE with one another.
RESOLVE your issues together and never go to bed angry.
RESPECT each other
COMMUNICATE - is almost key in your marriage.
COMPLIMENT - an honest compliment once a day goes a long way...
APPRECIATE you, your spouse and your marriage.
GOOD LUCK :) Hope some of these help you!
it shouldnt be rough. your looking at it the wrong way all together. NEVER FOCUS ON THE BAD, U NEED TO FOCUS ON THE GOOD 24/7!!! yeah its hard sometimes but u 2 love each other and u have to remember that!!! im going on 8 months of marriage!! the first 1-2 years is the hardest because now that u are married its a whole new level of closeness!!! yall got married for a reason,just keep that in mind!!
Communicate as much as you can! If you see the relationship is having problems talk, or get counseling, always try never run unless you have actually made and effort , Marriage takes 2, And also Never go to bed mad! Good luck Best of Wishes
Never ever loose respect for each other.Never call each other hurt foul names,when you get in a argument ALWAYS make up before going to bed(makeup sex is great) and have great communication.
This a important one always act like lady but in the bed room be your husband fantasy
i dont know exactly what good advice to give you besides love eachother unconditionally. stick through it, no matter what! and congrats on getting married. i cant wait until i get married!
Honesty and communication.
As soon as you stop talking or start having secrets it makes everything worse.
communication and never go to bed mad, always no matter how mad you are at him/her tell them you love them when you leave, you never know if this will be the last time you see them
Communication and compromise.
Good Luck!!!
Communication, TRUST, comprimise. Think...if you love them forever, what will you do to make things right TOGETHER!
good communication and a good sex life.. you must be best of friends all the time
R-E-S-P-E-C-T sock it to me sock it to me sock it to me sock it to me
Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
My friend and I are making a book for our friends who are getting married. We are putting quotes, verses, phrases, etc. that have to do with being married into our book. This is a fun light-hearted gift and we would LOVE to include your advice...
So some of our topics are:
Making Love/ Baby Making
Cooking/ In the Kitchen
Dealing with In Laws/ Holidays
Communication
... whatever you got! THANKS!!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
This is a funny one I heard about a month ago:
Never argue with your clothes on. If you are about to fight go home (or to the bed room) and start stripping down! The reality is, you probably forget the petty thing you are fighting about anyway ... and if you are still fighting while naked then you know it's a serious issue you should talk through ASAP.
Here is an article with a few other serious/funny/sweet words of marriage advice:
http://www.realsimple.com/holidays-enter鈥?/a>
Best Wishes!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
When your wife is cooking in the kitchen wait till she is calls you in. Dont go in and ask when well it be done.
Share the holidays you have two mothers and fathers know. Just remeber both of you want to be with your family during the holidays.
(I am not married and I already know this lol. Aka I well be the wife in about three to four years)
The Bride dresses to kill, but she cooks that way too!
The Groom's idea of a romantic evening was a candlelit football stadium.
never go to bed angry. Learn to listen to each other and understand that no one is right 100% of the time.
So some of our topics are:
Making Love/ Baby Making
Cooking/ In the Kitchen
Dealing with In Laws/ Holidays
Communication
... whatever you got! THANKS!!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
This is a funny one I heard about a month ago:
Never argue with your clothes on. If you are about to fight go home (or to the bed room) and start stripping down! The reality is, you probably forget the petty thing you are fighting about anyway ... and if you are still fighting while naked then you know it's a serious issue you should talk through ASAP.
Here is an article with a few other serious/funny/sweet words of marriage advice:
http://www.realsimple.com/holidays-enter鈥?/a>
Best Wishes!Serious, Funny, Clever, advice for newlyweds...?
When your wife is cooking in the kitchen wait till she is calls you in. Dont go in and ask when well it be done.
Share the holidays you have two mothers and fathers know. Just remeber both of you want to be with your family during the holidays.
(I am not married and I already know this lol. Aka I well be the wife in about three to four years)
The Bride dresses to kill, but she cooks that way too!
The Groom's idea of a romantic evening was a candlelit football stadium.
never go to bed angry. Learn to listen to each other and understand that no one is right 100% of the time.
Any advice for a newlywed couple with a baby on the way?
Savor every moment before the baby is born. I cant imagine life without my children but to be brutally honest, having children DOES change your marriage. Also, dont forget to fill eachothers needs once the baby comes. You will frequently put the child above your spouse many times. Its OK to put the child second every once in a while if its going to keep your marriage strong. I wish I would have done it more.Any advice for a newlywed couple with a baby on the way?
Stay completely honest with each other about everything, and remember family first....Any advice for a newlywed couple with a baby on the way?
Yes. Get lots of sleep now. Oh and you two will fight constantly because it's difficult to be patient when you lack sleep. If you two work on it together things will be alright. Get used to praying a lot.
Enjoy the time you have alone together.
Make a point to have a date night after the baby gets here. Once they can crawl and walk the offers tend to slow way down.
Don't forget to apologize in the morning after tempers get the best of you during a long night (sick baby, nighttime feedings).
Congratulations on your blessings
You better enjoy your sex life now cause you won't have one when the baby is born.gloss elizabeth arden
Stay completely honest with each other about everything, and remember family first....Any advice for a newlywed couple with a baby on the way?
Yes. Get lots of sleep now. Oh and you two will fight constantly because it's difficult to be patient when you lack sleep. If you two work on it together things will be alright. Get used to praying a lot.
Enjoy the time you have alone together.
Make a point to have a date night after the baby gets here. Once they can crawl and walk the offers tend to slow way down.
Don't forget to apologize in the morning after tempers get the best of you during a long night (sick baby, nighttime feedings).
Congratulations on your blessings
You better enjoy your sex life now cause you won't have one when the baby is born.
Any Advice for a newlywed?
I just got married about two weeks ago, any advice for me on how to maintain a happy marriage?Any Advice for a newlywed?
Be respectful of each other, and nurture your friendship. And when disagreeing, always give each other the benefit of the doubt. Even when you feel he's dead wrong, stop and ask yourself - is there something I have not considered? This person must have a good reason to feel the way he does. Putting yourself in another's shoes goes a long ways in understanding each other.Any Advice for a newlywed?
Go witht he flow never be jealous there is no room for it in a marriage... and if it's only been two weeks you should focus on only the good and brite future ahead not worry about how to maintain happiness so soon in the marriage this will only manifest and then you will have something to worry about... Keep your love a live and do not be frightened of new ideas and always have an open mind... Unconditonally love is the key... be honest always never fear converstaion your spouse is the one you should tell all to and accept all about one another even if you don't agree or want to he is he and you are you bother will have different opinions but it doens't mean b/c you two may differ from time to time that it has to cause issues... Congratulations and best of luck to you!
a happy marriage is all about respecting the other person, caring about what they have to say, compromising on things that you dont agree on, open communication and honesty....when you argue, never bring up things from the past or anything other then what your arguing about, it just feeds the fire and makes things worse....and ALWAYS remember, dont say hurtful things in the heat of the moment, if your mad at each other, talk about it when you've calmed down bcuz hurtful things you say will never be forgotten! of course there are other things that go towards having a happy marriage but those are some big things that i think people forget!
congratulations and good luck =)
oh and btw, dont forget about being intimate with each other, that seems to make the man happier which in return makes you happier hehe
Be willing to hold on in the good times and the bad as they both come to you! Compromise and build each other up whenever you can. Don't over-react about small things. Love unconditionally -sometimes this is hard to do especially when he has hurt you or broken trust. Don't be too concerned about who is the boss and who is in charge. Make love often and be the greatest friends ever. Never make him sleep on the couch. Don't go to bed angry -fix the nonsense before you sleep!! Have fun!!
Listen to him, show him respect and appreciation, never talk badly about him in public, don't expect everything to be perfect all the time, forgive him when he messes up, give him space when he needs it, don't let your self go, keep having fun %26amp; making adventures together, be best friends...
Be Honest at all times. Being honest builds trust between you and your husband. Always be there for him. Work as a team. If you disagree compromise. Marriage is alot of work, you will have ups and downs, but Love conquires all. GOOD LUCK.. and Congrants on your marriage.
YES. Don't follow the example of marriage and commitment of a lot of these Y/A users. If you are going to be on this site know that every marriage is not bad there a few of us on here that are examples of that. So don't let this site scare you or bring you down.
CONGRATS!!!!!!!! :)
You've only been married for 2 wks and ALREADY asking if people have advice to keep a marriage happy?!?!?! There may be a problem already and you just aren;t telling or what?!?! GOOD LUCK
have lots of SEX
Take care of him and he take care of you or the other way around
fiesta 26 has a good point to. thats always a big plus
Be respectful of each other, and nurture your friendship. And when disagreeing, always give each other the benefit of the doubt. Even when you feel he's dead wrong, stop and ask yourself - is there something I have not considered? This person must have a good reason to feel the way he does. Putting yourself in another's shoes goes a long ways in understanding each other.Any Advice for a newlywed?
Go witht he flow never be jealous there is no room for it in a marriage... and if it's only been two weeks you should focus on only the good and brite future ahead not worry about how to maintain happiness so soon in the marriage this will only manifest and then you will have something to worry about... Keep your love a live and do not be frightened of new ideas and always have an open mind... Unconditonally love is the key... be honest always never fear converstaion your spouse is the one you should tell all to and accept all about one another even if you don't agree or want to he is he and you are you bother will have different opinions but it doens't mean b/c you two may differ from time to time that it has to cause issues... Congratulations and best of luck to you!
a happy marriage is all about respecting the other person, caring about what they have to say, compromising on things that you dont agree on, open communication and honesty....when you argue, never bring up things from the past or anything other then what your arguing about, it just feeds the fire and makes things worse....and ALWAYS remember, dont say hurtful things in the heat of the moment, if your mad at each other, talk about it when you've calmed down bcuz hurtful things you say will never be forgotten! of course there are other things that go towards having a happy marriage but those are some big things that i think people forget!
congratulations and good luck =)
oh and btw, dont forget about being intimate with each other, that seems to make the man happier which in return makes you happier hehe
Be willing to hold on in the good times and the bad as they both come to you! Compromise and build each other up whenever you can. Don't over-react about small things. Love unconditionally -sometimes this is hard to do especially when he has hurt you or broken trust. Don't be too concerned about who is the boss and who is in charge. Make love often and be the greatest friends ever. Never make him sleep on the couch. Don't go to bed angry -fix the nonsense before you sleep!! Have fun!!
Listen to him, show him respect and appreciation, never talk badly about him in public, don't expect everything to be perfect all the time, forgive him when he messes up, give him space when he needs it, don't let your self go, keep having fun %26amp; making adventures together, be best friends...
Be Honest at all times. Being honest builds trust between you and your husband. Always be there for him. Work as a team. If you disagree compromise. Marriage is alot of work, you will have ups and downs, but Love conquires all. GOOD LUCK.. and Congrants on your marriage.
YES. Don't follow the example of marriage and commitment of a lot of these Y/A users. If you are going to be on this site know that every marriage is not bad there a few of us on here that are examples of that. So don't let this site scare you or bring you down.
CONGRATS!!!!!!!! :)
You've only been married for 2 wks and ALREADY asking if people have advice to keep a marriage happy?!?!?! There may be a problem already and you just aren;t telling or what?!?! GOOD LUCK
have lots of SEX
Take care of him and he take care of you or the other way around
fiesta 26 has a good point to. thats always a big plus
For the married couples..advice for soon to be newlyweds?
alright my co worker and I have been having an on going debate...we are both getting married. She is worried (well I got her a bit worried first..) about her husbands finances. He pretty much needs to file for bankruptcy because he is behind on student loans and medical and credit card bills. He stopped paying them because he figured he was already in deep so may as well go the bankrupt route. She has everything in her name (home, car, credit cards, insurance).
Anyways. I think it's a bad idea to commit to someone with a huge financial irresponsibility. I mean he is up in the thousands on the debt...
She argues that as long as they do not sign on anything together his credit will not affect her in any way.
I find this hard to believe.....thoughts??? I'm not trying to stop her from marrying him, but she asked for advice and I told her that in times like these it could be risky to join in marriage knowing he has big money problems that will take some time to get through.For the married couples..advice for soon to be newlyweds?
Congrats!
Blue's right, once she marries him, it becomes her debt, just like her fortunes become his as well.
It's not just about finances, if he so carelessly takes care of things, how is he supposed to put any effort into a marriage?
ouch!
Your friend is in big trouble with a soon-to -be- sponge!!!
He may be adorable but he will destroy her.
Tell her to ask him to get credit counseling or debt consolidation, and maybe they have a chance.. but your right to be concerend..For the married couples..advice for soon to be newlyweds?
It's not a good idea at all. I assume they're already living together, so what's the rush to get married? She will inherit his debt and then she will be in financial trouble too. Besides, if he isn't fulfilling his past obligations, what makes her think he will fulfill future ones (like marriage vows, for example)?
Why is he in such huge financial debt? If it is something like a medical problem, that is a one-time thing that can happen to anyone. If he is in debt because he is spending money he doesn't have on fancy cars, vacations, and designer clothes, then that may cause problems for her down the line.
She should run away as fast as she can. The number 1 marriage killer is money and they are starting out on death row. It really has nothing to do with the ';times';, regardless of the economy stay away from people that cannot control their spending, it gets worse with age not better. Once they are married his debts become hers.
his debt is not your debt.....see link below fyi
once she marries him, his debt becomes hers.
Oh dear, once they get married, his debt becomes her debt. I have been going through this as well. I had a couple old medical bills that added up to about $600 that I forgot about because I don't really use credit for anything. My fiance made me check my credit score after we got engaged because he has GREAT credit. We bought a house in his name and would like to buy a car after we get married. So my score was terrible. I just paid off those medical bills recently so they can be removed from my poor credit, at least as much as possible. It would have been irresponsible of me to expect him to take on my debt.
Then please, show her my answer. YES IT WILL AFFECT YOU. Even if they don`t sign for credit together doesn`t mean it`s not going to affect either of them. This is what most newlyweds don`t get...they think that they`re getting married to be together because they love each other and want to be together and form a family and love love is in the air all the time. It`s all true, but you also share money, and things, material things, and time and strength and everything! Marriage is about involving your partner in your problems and joys, not about ';ok, this is you, and this is me, but let`s do it under one roof';
Please, to your naive friend, let him resolve this situation first. You don`t want to get married with a person that has been irresponsible or that can`t get his act together financially. Some day she will be a mother, and he`ll have to take the finances and how will she ever trust him? If she`s even thinking on not mixing credits already, and they`re not even married!!!!!!!!!
THIS IS WHY DIVORCES COME UP SOOO SOON, BECAUSE COUPLES THINK MARRIAGE IS JUST A PIECE OF PAPER, IT`S MORE THAN THAT. SO MUCH MORE. IT`S EVERYTHING YOU OWN, WILL BE HIS. OH YES IT WILL EVEN IF YOU`RE SHAKING YOUR HEAD NO.
It really depends on how willing she is to put up with it and how much she is ready to take on. This is definitely something that the couple needs to sit down and discuss before marriage. Has he learned his lesson or will he rack up credit card bills and get himself into debt again? If he does is she ready to accept that she may have to bail him out? Can she afford to bail him out if necessary? Is he the type of person that just can't control their spending or was all of this debt necessary? If he's out blowing his money on junk he doesn't need then get out asap. Will it bother her one day that they have to keep their finances separate? Will she ever trust him with money enough to combine their bank accounts? It's going to come down to how much she's going to let this affect their relationship. It's really a personal choice, but one that really needs to be discussed.
Yes the debt becomes hers too. So she may want to wait and have him file bankrupt on his own. At least then her credit is still good. She just needs to be careful not to let him ruin her credit at the same time. Even though money doesn't buy you love it still makes up a lot of the glue that holds a marriage together.
Anyways. I think it's a bad idea to commit to someone with a huge financial irresponsibility. I mean he is up in the thousands on the debt...
She argues that as long as they do not sign on anything together his credit will not affect her in any way.
I find this hard to believe.....thoughts??? I'm not trying to stop her from marrying him, but she asked for advice and I told her that in times like these it could be risky to join in marriage knowing he has big money problems that will take some time to get through.For the married couples..advice for soon to be newlyweds?
Congrats!
Blue's right, once she marries him, it becomes her debt, just like her fortunes become his as well.
It's not just about finances, if he so carelessly takes care of things, how is he supposed to put any effort into a marriage?
ouch!
Your friend is in big trouble with a soon-to -be- sponge!!!
He may be adorable but he will destroy her.
Tell her to ask him to get credit counseling or debt consolidation, and maybe they have a chance.. but your right to be concerend..For the married couples..advice for soon to be newlyweds?
It's not a good idea at all. I assume they're already living together, so what's the rush to get married? She will inherit his debt and then she will be in financial trouble too. Besides, if he isn't fulfilling his past obligations, what makes her think he will fulfill future ones (like marriage vows, for example)?
Why is he in such huge financial debt? If it is something like a medical problem, that is a one-time thing that can happen to anyone. If he is in debt because he is spending money he doesn't have on fancy cars, vacations, and designer clothes, then that may cause problems for her down the line.
She should run away as fast as she can. The number 1 marriage killer is money and they are starting out on death row. It really has nothing to do with the ';times';, regardless of the economy stay away from people that cannot control their spending, it gets worse with age not better. Once they are married his debts become hers.
his debt is not your debt.....see link below fyi
once she marries him, his debt becomes hers.
Oh dear, once they get married, his debt becomes her debt. I have been going through this as well. I had a couple old medical bills that added up to about $600 that I forgot about because I don't really use credit for anything. My fiance made me check my credit score after we got engaged because he has GREAT credit. We bought a house in his name and would like to buy a car after we get married. So my score was terrible. I just paid off those medical bills recently so they can be removed from my poor credit, at least as much as possible. It would have been irresponsible of me to expect him to take on my debt.
Then please, show her my answer. YES IT WILL AFFECT YOU. Even if they don`t sign for credit together doesn`t mean it`s not going to affect either of them. This is what most newlyweds don`t get...they think that they`re getting married to be together because they love each other and want to be together and form a family and love love is in the air all the time. It`s all true, but you also share money, and things, material things, and time and strength and everything! Marriage is about involving your partner in your problems and joys, not about ';ok, this is you, and this is me, but let`s do it under one roof';
Please, to your naive friend, let him resolve this situation first. You don`t want to get married with a person that has been irresponsible or that can`t get his act together financially. Some day she will be a mother, and he`ll have to take the finances and how will she ever trust him? If she`s even thinking on not mixing credits already, and they`re not even married!!!!!!!!!
THIS IS WHY DIVORCES COME UP SOOO SOON, BECAUSE COUPLES THINK MARRIAGE IS JUST A PIECE OF PAPER, IT`S MORE THAN THAT. SO MUCH MORE. IT`S EVERYTHING YOU OWN, WILL BE HIS. OH YES IT WILL EVEN IF YOU`RE SHAKING YOUR HEAD NO.
It really depends on how willing she is to put up with it and how much she is ready to take on. This is definitely something that the couple needs to sit down and discuss before marriage. Has he learned his lesson or will he rack up credit card bills and get himself into debt again? If he does is she ready to accept that she may have to bail him out? Can she afford to bail him out if necessary? Is he the type of person that just can't control their spending or was all of this debt necessary? If he's out blowing his money on junk he doesn't need then get out asap. Will it bother her one day that they have to keep their finances separate? Will she ever trust him with money enough to combine their bank accounts? It's going to come down to how much she's going to let this affect their relationship. It's really a personal choice, but one that really needs to be discussed.
Yes the debt becomes hers too. So she may want to wait and have him file bankrupt on his own. At least then her credit is still good. She just needs to be careful not to let him ruin her credit at the same time. Even though money doesn't buy you love it still makes up a lot of the glue that holds a marriage together.
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